Each individual is allowed to choose and develop their own subjective and unique journey of self-discovery and fulfillment. (Source: Freepik)Parents often wish for their children to share a similar inclination towards the journey of spirituality that they had. However, as teens develop their own sense of identity and individuality, they may adopt a different stance on spirituality and its concept.
Even as parents, we can sometimes overlook the difference between religious and spiritual practices. Though both emphasise compassion as a core value, there lies a subtle distinction. Spirituality, in simple terms, is a journey of self-discovery through self-awareness and assessment, leading to a connection with a higher power. Religion, on the other hand, involves practices and rituals through which individuals feel devoted and fulfilled in their pursuit of understanding divinity.
Both spirituality and religion are equally essential yet personal. Each individual is allowed to choose and develop their own subjective and unique journey of self-discovery and fulfillment.
Listen to their story: Allow your teens to freely express their thoughts on spirituality and how they can incorporate their learnings into their lives. Respect their opinions, even if they differ from yours.
Allow autonomy in their practices: While your beliefs may influence your children’s thoughts, their practices can be influenced by their environment and energy. Encourage activities that ground their inner selves, such as spending time in nature or practicing mindfulness. Autonomy fosters self-awareness and self-worth.
Create a climate of change: In today’s digital age, where stillness is a luxury, parents can facilitate their child’s spiritual journey by creating an environment conducive to change. Encourage them to step out of their comfort zones and try new things. Provide a non-judgmental space where they can ask questions and seek peace.
Lead by example: Demonstrate empathy, appreciation for nature, kindness, and compassion to yourself and others. By showcasing these qualities, parents can inspire their teens to adopt similar values. However, if their efforts don’t immediately resonate with their child, it’s important not to force the issue. Allow them to develop the cognitive and emotional maturity to seek spirituality on their own terms.
Nishtha Grover is a child and adolescent psychologist, and a doctoral research scholar based in New Delhi