
A pair of brown eyes peered over the booklet and met mine from across the table. The young man in the white T-shirt suddenly looked away. Seated next to him another pair of eyes, glaring at me from under bushy white paternal eyebrows, sized me up. Papa was clearly not pleased.
This was matrimonial e-portal8217;s match-making meet 8216;Swayamvar for Cosmopolitan8217; in Pune and on both sides of me sat row upon row of eligible boys and girls accompanied by anxious, booklet-clutching parents. Hope hung heavy in the air as the swayamvar got underway. Urban India was out to find a mate. And among the hopefuls looking for Mr Right sat yours truly, leafing through a booklet full of names, numbers and preferences, at a desk with an alphanumerical tag8212;F438212; for identification. I flipped through the book8212;circling numbers I should look out for.
Somewhere someone cleared her throat and began to talk into the mike. The session was about to begin and the first talk was on 8216;8216;health and fitness and precautions to be taken when planning a family.8217;8217; The speaker launched into details of sexual health8212;clearly an awkward topic to kick-start a marriage meet with. Parents began to squirm in their seats, as the eligibles buried their heads in booklets. After the third speaker finished speaking8212;on what it takes to keep a marriage going8212;the actual business of interaction began. This was, of course, preceded by a formal announcement: 8216;8216;First, the girls8217; side will get a chance to meet the boys8217; side.8217;8217; The scramble for 8216;8216;a suitable boy8217;8217; began. 8216;8216;What does that mean? Do we just approach the boys directly?8217;8217; an anxious mother asked the organiser.
8216;8216;Numbers M34, M23, M98, please meet F15!8217;8217; came the next announcement. The initial awkwardness at being part of such a meet seemed to dissipate. Parents began the matching of names and numbers, a pen at hand, ready to tick the 8220;right8221; name. Men and women walked past tables sizing each other up. Two astrologers were also at hand, in case things speeded up.
M13 8216;8216;software engineer based in Boston8217;8217; was clearly in demand. The only hitch was that he had not turned up. The man in the white T-shirt had disappeared. Half an hour into it, and things were obviously not moving for me. Around me, though, I could see tentative matches being made. For some, the sumptuous snacks included in the Rs 100 registration fee proved more of an attraction. Besides one could get a better view from the buffet table.
8216;8216;Excuse me, have you registered here?8217;8217; asked a hesitant voice from behind. I nodded to M50, a marketing executive of 8216;wheatish complexion, single, with own house8217;. 8216;8216;It8217;s quite awkward going to girls8217; houses, so I thought I8217;d check out this meet,8217;8217; he said by way of explanation.
Then came the buzzer round. 8216;8216;What are your expectations? Why are your parents not here? Are you in a hurry to get married? Can you cook? Are you willing to stay with your in-laws? Can you help me in my business?8217;8217; I took his e-mail address and promised to keep in touch. 8216;8216;Have you registered here?8217;8217;8212;this was from a pair of silver-haired parents on the look-out for their 23-year-old son. 8216;8216;My son has his own business and he will move to his own house in two years8217; time. We are very broad-minded. Can you cook?8217;8217; I pointed out the obvious age difference8212;their son was younger. 8216;8216;Oh! It was nice meeting you,8217;8217; they chorused, moving on.
Three hours into the swayamvar and no sign of Mr Right yet. I took another round of the hall. Nothing eventful occurred. Perhaps, I thought, I should seek divine help. I approached the astrologer. 8216;8216;Don8217;t worry,8217;8217; he said. 8216;8216;You have very good yog, your time will come.8217;8217; I smiled. The sky had cleared. Maybe he was right. My time would come.