Prevention is better than cure. I guess this age old adage also applies to relationships. There are 7 billion plus people in this world. Make sure you choose the right ones to date. The people you are in a relationship with have a great control over your life; so choose them wisely. You cannot choose the family you were born, but you can always choose your friends and people you fall in love with. Do not make your life hell by dating the wrong people. As a professional counsellor and life coach I get to work on so many people whose lives has been wrecked by relationship issues. This article helps you in evaluating people you might plan to date. Here are the 8 kinds of people you must absolutely avoid when it comes to love-relationships: 1. Stalkers: They are the people who will track your ‘last seen’ on Facebook or WhatsApp. They like to check your messages, mails and are always suspicious about your love for them. They will message/text you and expect you to reply the moment you see it. They measure your love based on the speed and urgency with which you reply to their conversation. All hell breaks loose if you miss their text or calls. They expect text/calls during morning, noon, evening, night etc. 2. Emotional Dumpers: The basic reason why these people are in a relationship is because they need someone for their emotional dumps. The people who date them get to hear about every problem these people are facing in life. They complain about their friends, enemies, work, clients, and bosses and the poor soul has no choice but to listen to their emotional crap. If you try to recommend them a solution for their problems they will get irritated or shout at you. They are in love with their misery and measure your love based upon how much emotional dump you can take from them. 3. Record Keepers: They will keep a record of money they spent on you or the gifts you bought for them. The number of calls they made to you and the number of times you returned the call. The number of times they paid the bill for the food, the movie tickets or the number of times you used their car. They measure your love by the money you spend on them or the way you return their non-monetary favours. Kick them out of your life. 4. Aimless: These people do not have any big goals in life. Their life revolves around love, job, party, movies, drinking and this cycle gets repeated. They do not motivate or support your dream. You feel wasted when you spend time with them. if you do not occupy your day with high impact activities then low impact activities automatically take over. They will waste their time and your time in meaningless pursuits. Relationships are a part of life but for these people it is the heart of life. They measure your love by how much you are willing to sacrifice your career/goals for them. 5. Sex Maniacs: These people enter into a relationships purely for carnal pleasures. Sex is always on their mind and they are always planning their relationship in a way to get maximum physical pleasure. They may not be able to communicate this to their partner but their hunger often gets reflected in their aggressive behaviour when they do not get what they want. They will use all emotional tactics to exploit you physically. A relationship is a lot more than physical exchange of love. Sex is a very weak foundation for love. They measure you love by the amount of time you spend with them in bed. 6. Toxic Communication: These people just do not know how to give respect to their lovers. They will say that they fight with you because they love you. The truth is they do not love you because they fight with you. They will argue, counter-argue and never give you space and opportunity to explain things. They measure your love by how much insult or disrespect you can take from them and still love them. They will never apologise for their behaviour and when they do they do not really mean it. 7. Freaks & Melancholics: These are the people who are emotionally immature. They freak out at every problem that comes their way and tend to exaggerate it. They abuse you through their unpredictable mood-swings. They will be upset for no reason because they are in love with their mood swings. They measure your love by being unpredictable and how you accept their weirdest mood-swings. They make your life hell because they do not know why they are unhappy and hence even you cannot help them. 8. Alcoholics and addicts: People who abuse themselves chemically suffer a lot emotionally and physically. They are slaves to their addiction and you are never a priority for them. You can never have a healthy relationship with an unhealthy person. Love is a beautiful experience. Make sure you do not ruin your beautiful experience by being in a relationship with the wrong people. Before you commit; observe. And once you discover what’s wrong; leave. Life is too short to be spent with jerks. The author is a professional motivational speaker and the bestselling author of 5 books like Love Your Momdays and retire young, 60 Keys to Success with NLP and many others.
