Are you holding off on having sex until after dinner? Here’s why you might want to reconsider

This issue becomes even more relevant as people age when energy levels and physical responsiveness shift. But why is timing such a critical factor in sexual wellness, and what other elements should be considered to maximise satisfaction?

Impact of digestion on sexual arousal and responsiveness

“After a meal, the body’s primary focus shifts to digestion,” Dr Vinutha G, senior consultant Obstetrics and Gynaecology at Athreya Hospital, tells indianexpress.com. “Blood flow that would typically aid sexual arousal is diverted to the stomach and intestines to help break down food. This reduction in blood flow to sexual organs can cause a decrease in arousal and responsiveness.” 

Additionally, postprandial somnolence, or fatigue after eating, is caused by hormonal changes such as increased insulin and serotonin levels, further reducing energy levels and making intimacy less appealing. “Larger meals exacerbate this issue, making digestion slower and more demanding, leading to sluggishness and even bloating, which can make sexual activity uncomfortable or unappealing,” mentions Dr Vinutha.

Physiological changes that occur as we age make the timing of intimacy more important

Dr Vinutha notes that as people age, hormonal shifts, especially reductions in testosterone and oestrogen levels, can lower libido and affect sexual performance. Furthermore, circulation declines with age, slowing the blood flow needed for arousal. This makes timing more important, as engaging in intimacy when the body is less tired or stressed leads to better satisfaction.

Larger meals exacerbate this issue, making digestion slower and more demanding, leading to sluggishness and even bloating (Source: Freepik)

She states, “Ageing also impacts circadian rhythms, the body’s natural sleep-wake cycle, meaning that intimacy later in the day, when energy levels drop, can feel more taxing. Research shows that adults tend to perform better sexually earlier in the day, as energy, hormone levels, and mood peak in the morning.”

Strategies for couples with busy or conflicting schedules to maintain sexual intimacy 

For couples with packed or conflicting schedules, Dr Vinutha explains that maintaining intimacy requires thoughtful planning and prioritising. “Setting aside time for intimacy when both partners are less tired, such as early mornings or weekends, can lead to more fulfilling experiences. Couples can also find connection through shorter, spontaneous moments of intimacy like hugs, kisses, or massages throughout the day, fostering emotional closeness that sustains desire.” 

Communication is critical — openly discussing needs and expectations allows partners to adjust routines and keep intimacy alive despite time constraints.

General tips for couples who may only have time for intimacy in the evenings

Couples with evening-only schedules can take steps to maintain energy and enhance responsiveness. Eating lighter meals before intimacy can reduce the heavy digestive load that often causes fatigue and sluggishness. Engaging in physical exercise earlier in the day boosts circulation and releases endorphins, increasing both physical and emotional readiness for intimacy, suggests Dr Vinutha. 

“Incorporating relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation before intimacy can reduce stress and improve focus. Studies indicate that maintaining good sleep hygiene, such as getting enough rest and avoiding screens before bed, significantly enhances sexual satisfaction and energy levels in the evening,” she stresses.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to. Always consult your health practitioner before starting any routine.