Ankur Warikoo applauds couple’s rule to own a house before marriage: ‘They won at life’

At it's core, marriage is all about real companionship that thrives when two people share conversations that inspire them, not just help them survive.

Ankur Warikoo on not spending unnecessarily for marriage

Ankur Warikoo encourages not spending unnecessarily for marriage (Source: Instagram/@ankurwarikoo)

Ankur Warikoo speaks to a lot of people on a daily basis, and an illuminating conversation with a woman introduced him to an interesting rule her parents had before their marriage. Amita’s parents had said they would get married only once they owned a house. The entrepreneur revealed that the couple waited till 30 to get married, and spent all their savings on that house. “At their wedding reception, guests were served one samosa and a cold drink. They won at life,” he added in a recent Instagram post.

According to Warikoo, most Indian families would be horrified with this. But he encourages us to go deeper and think about it in detail. A wedding lasts for a few days, but a home you build together is for a lifetime. “They got what mattered to them. Not what would look good to 200 guests who’d forget the menu in a week,” he said.

Focus on what actually matters

Rima Bhandekar, Senior Psychologist at Mpower, Aditya Birla Education Trust, said that linking one’s self-worth to external metrics of success and what’s trending on social media can be detrimental to mental health, relationships, and finances in the long run.

“It can lead to anxiety and a mindset in which the person rigidly believes that their special moments in life and their worth are fixed by metrics like packages, assets, or social media virality, which can fluctuate anytime. This creates self-doubts, and failures feel too personal, and gradually the sense of identity becomes shallow and fragile,” she explained.

Ankur and his wife Richa. (Source: Instagram/@ankurwarikoo)

To let go of this mindset, Bhandekar suggested noticing where attachment to external factors creates a void in your life. “When things do not go as planned, treat yourself with compassionate thoughts. Quit measuring yourself in the moment through someone else’s parameters of success; this is your life journey point, and focus on creating memories on your terms,” she said. Foster a support circle where your uniqueness is celebrated. The stats about you will never tell the complete picture of who you are.

Marriage is not just about responsibilities

However, marriage does not have to be all about reaching material milestones in life. At it’s core, marriage is all about real companionship that thrives when two people share conversations that inspire them, not just help them survive. “Make space to play, laugh, and learn together – not just plan. See each other as individuals with evolving worlds,” she said.

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To prevent marriages from dissolving into domestic monotony, couples can consciously:

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Maintain individual space: Hobbies, friendships, and quiet time are not threats.

Talk about more than logistics: One meaningful conversation daily can keep connection alive.

Respect evolution: People change. Celebrate your partner’s growth rather than resist it.

Laugh with, not at: Humour should bond, not belittle.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to.

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