‘I send Raha emails’: Alia Bhatt on creating a digital memory book for her daughter; how documenting childhood moments shapes emotional bonds

Capturing childhood moments through letters, journals, or emails is a unique way of preserving memories and emotions that might otherwise fade over time. 

But, how can documenting a child’s early years through letters or emails impact their emotional development and sense of identity?

Psychologist Anjali Gursahaney tells indianexpress.com, “When a child receives a collection of personal letters or emails documenting their early years, it helps shape their identity, emotional well-being, and relationships. Knowing their story, origins, and family experiences fosters a strong sense of self and connection to their roots. These written memories also provide emotional security, reinforcing feelings of love and self-worth.” 

Since young children may not recall early experiences, she adds that reading about them later aids in memory consolidation, helping them reconstruct their personal history. Additionally, even if they don’t read the messages until years later, simply knowing their parents took the time to reflect on their journey strengthens the parent-child bond, building trust and a lasting connection.

 

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Psychological benefits for both parents and children when memories are preserved in such a personal way

For both parents and children, Gursahaney notes that this practice offers profound emotional and relational benefits. Writing provides emotional catharsis for parents, helping them process their feelings, track personal growth, and reflect on their parenting journey. It also strengthens attachment bonds by keeping parents deeply engaged in their child’s life beyond daily routines, fostering a lasting emotional connection. “Revisiting happy moments through these letters enhances gratitude and mindfulness, amplifying positive emotions for both the parent and, eventually, the child. Moreover, these letters can become cherished keepsakes, creating a meaningful legacy that connects generations and preserves family history,” she explains. 

Incorporating mindful storytelling without feeling overwhelmed with the process

To make this process sustainable, Gursahaney says that parents can:

• Keep it simple: Instead of long essays, write short reflections, key milestones, or even bullet points.
• Use a digital system: Scheduled monthly emails (like Alia Bhatt) or a shared Google Drive folder make organisation easier.
• Capture small but meaningful moments: Not every entry has to be about big milestones — record funny conversations, tiny habits, or emotions felt that day.
• Use multimedia: Add voice notes, short video clips, or handwritten notes to keep the storytelling engaging.
• Make it a ritual, not a burden: Set a dedicated time each month to reflect and write, ensuring it remains enjoyable rather than an obligation.