Mother-daughter bonding

A mother-daughter relationship is one of the most intricate relationships to live. Things start going wrong when the mother feels that her daughter no longer considers every word of hers as the ultimate. The little one who grew up before her very eyes starts showing signs of being a rebel with or without a cause. The little one is no longer little. She is growing up. New experiences are being gained, often in stark juxtaposition to her mother8217;s experiences, new opinions are being formed, a whole new world of individual learning and information is beckoning her. Friends and friends8217; opinions is kept on the highest pedestal. Daughters think mothers are hopelessly out of tune with their modern world and new thinking while mothers argue that their daughters just don8217;t pay any heed to them anymore. It8217;s then that the mother8217;s influence that was so delicately interwoven in everything she did as a kid starts pinching. Minor issues are blown out of proportion and very soon arguments become an everyday affair. SaysMadhura Gandhi, 17, 8220; I8217; m fed up with our quarrels. My mom seems to find fault with almost every thing I do. She just doesn8217;t seem to realise that I8217;ve grown up and that I can take most of my decisions myself.8221; Her mother, Rajata Gandhi on the other hand feels that her daughter doesn8217;t even have the patience to listen to her. 8220;As a mother I do think that I have a right to advice her. She might object to whatever I tell her but I8217;m sure she8217;ll realise the importance of my words someday when she has her own daughter to advise.8221; Surely a case of What goes around comes around8217;.

What is essentially missing is proper communication8217;. It is necessary for both the parties to realise that while one is growing up the other isn8217;t really getting any younger. Biologically and physically, too, things take their toll. Words uttered in haste and in a fit of fury, which wouldn8217;t have otherwise, might be forgotten but the hurt stays. After all who is the antagonist, your own daughter, your own mother!! Given a chance every mother would like to become a friend of her daughter.

Chaitra Puthli, 20, feels that her mother is her best friend. She is the first person she runs to in times of trouble. 8220;We do have a lot of fights but she is the more patient of the two while I end up raising my voice. At times we are both stubborn but we are also very attached. Arguments are generally over petty matters. Major issues are always discussed thoroughly. I would describe my relationship with her as being perfect8217;.quot;

Rozanna Rodricks, mother of two teenaged daughters prefers an open dialogue with them. 8220;I encourage them to speak up and tell me their points of view. After telling them what I feel, I leave the ultimate decision to them. After all, it8217;s their lives. But as a parent I want them to know that I love them a lot and would go to any extent to help them from falling down.8217;

A mother-daughter relationship is an ever-growing one. Today8217;s daughter is tomorrow8217;s mother. It is a phase every woman has to undergo in her life. Your mother probably IS very well all that you had thought she was. You8217;ve perhaps lost that vision somewhere down the lane. Your daughter is still that little girl you put to sleep once but it8217;s time to realise that she is also a growing girl whose sense of independence is somehow taking precedence over her inherent love for you. Reach out to each other and savour the years you8217;ve been given to live under one roof, living the beautiful relationship.