‘I don’t get over things easily’: After Aadar Jain’s ‘time pass’ remark stirs buzz, here’s what Tara Sutaria once said about his family and dealing with heartbreak

In 2022, Tara opened up about her bond with Aadar and his family in an interview with Filmfare, revealing how they reminded her of her own. She shared, “A lot of people in his family remind me of people in my family. The warmth, love, and generosity that you will find in most Parsi households, you will find in Punjabi households too. It’s been wonderful. I respect them and love them deeply because, for me, it’s important that if you love, you must love deeply.”

In the same interview, Tara Sutaria was asked about her mantra for dealing with heartbreaks and relationships, to which she replied, “I really wish I had a mantra. I don’t get over things easily. I am an emotional person. I take people and commitments seriously. And when I am let down, it’s not easy for me to fathom why it has happened. So that can be upsetting. But life has been great, and I am learning a lot.”

How does the way a partner’s family treats their significant other shape their relationship?

According to psychologist Anjali Gursahaney, the treatment from a partner’s family can significantly influence the dynamics of a relationship. “When the family is welcoming and supportive, it fosters a sense of belonging and strengthens the bond between the couple,” she explains. However, a lack of acceptance, criticism, or ongoing tension can create stress, insecurity, and isolation for the significant other. Over time, this can lead to conflict, resentment, or emotional distance.

A partner’s role in navigating family dynamics is crucial. “If they stand up for their significant other and create a united front, it can mitigate the negative effects,” says Gursahaney. However, indifference or siding with the family can deepen the strain on the relationship.

 

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Why do some people struggle to accept being let down by a partner?

Being let down by a partner can be deeply painful, especially when trust and emotional investment are involved. Gursahaney outlines several reasons why some people find it particularly difficult to move forward:

• Hold idealised perceptions of their partner or the relationship, making the disappointment feel like a betrayal of their expectations.
• Tie their self-worth to the relationship, making the letdown feel personal.
• Fear vulnerability and loss, making it hard to accept that someone they trusted could hurt them.
• Struggle with cognitive dissonance, wrestling between how they perceived the partner and the painful reality.
• Have attachment wounds from past experiences, intensifying feelings of abandonment or rejection.

How can someone move past a relationship that seemed to be going well?

Moving on from a relationship that appeared promising is challenging, but Gursahaney suggests a few strategies to facilitate healing. “Accept that even if the relationship seemed good, not all aspects were aligned for long-term compatibility. Allow yourself to grieve without judgment, as suppressing emotions only delays healing. Shift your perspective by focusing on the lessons learned rather than the loss. Stay engaged in meaningful activities, and reframe the future by seeing the end as an opportunity for something more aligned. If needed, consider therapy or support groups,” she says.