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Shelja Sen
Shelja Sen is a narrative therapist, writer, co-founder of Children First Institute of Child & Adolescent Mental Health. She is a TED speaker, an international faculty at Dulwich Centre, Adelaide, and Tutor at University of Melbourne. Her latest book is Reclaim Your Life.
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Imagine: Less is more — escaping the grip of ‘affluenza’Subscriber Only
November 30, 2019 06:03 IST
We are trying to buy our way out of misery, but paradoxically, getting more stuck than ever. I am sure you will remember your childhood when old sofas were refurbished, furniture repaired, clothes passed on from older to younger and everything used until it was threadbare and turned into dusters.
Fri, Nov 29, 2019
Imagine: Raising girls — misogyny shows up when we’re least awareSubscriber Only
November 16, 2019 06:05 IST
Let’s start by becoming more mindful of our language. Just observe the words we use to praise little girls — “gentle”, “nice”, “sweet” and the ubiquitous “good girl”; and for boys — “strong”, “tough”, “brave”.
Sat, Nov 16, 2019
Imagine: Parents, create boundaries without any double standardsSubscriber Only
November 02, 2019 06:03 IST
It is only when they feel valued, loved and safe in a relationship that children can even be open to coaching. A red light is for behaviours that need a zero-tolerance, non-negotiable approach. The yellow light could be for habits the child is still learning to master.
Mon, Nov 04, 2019
Imagine: Parenting and the art of selective watering — even shy dreamers can sparkleSubscriber Only
October 19, 2019 06:00 IST
There are many children who are shy, scattered, disorganised, dreamers, clumsy and noisy. They might still have huge reservoirs of creativity, talent, ability, generosity, etc, but all that is lost behind cobwebs of mis-wiring that keep them from connecting and showing their sparkle.
Sat, Oct 19, 2019
Imagine: It takes a child to raise a villageSubscriber Only
October 05, 2019 06:01 IST
Our decades on this planet, mountains of learning and self-aggrandising posing has just made our world so much more toxic, so borrowing the young woman’s words, “How dare you?”
Fri, Oct 04, 2019
Imagine: How to savour life in overwhelming timesSubscriber Only
September 21, 2019 06:04 IST
It’s not about how much you do, but what you do, and less can be more. More than enough.
Sat, Sep 21, 2019
Imagine: It takes courage to be a teacherSubscriber Only
September 07, 2019 06:05 IST
All that talk and the buzz we hear about classroom management, teaching strategies, inclusion all amount to nothing if the teacher is not able to love each and every child in the class and make sure they know it.
Sat, Sep 07, 2019
Imagine: Forget IQ and EQ, it is all about PQ or playfulness quotientSubscriber Only
August 24, 2019 06:03 IST
We are going round and round in the journey of our life missing what matters the most – playfulness. Start by keeping 10 minutes a day for a nourishing PQ diet. All you have to do is to roll up your sleeves, loosen that tie and let your hair down.
Sat, Aug 24, 2019
Imagine: Speak up! We are done with the silence around mom-shamingSubscriber Only
August 10, 2019 06:00 IST
No matter what society tells you, it is not your fault, so look the shame in the eye and walk away. The saddest part is that it is women who end up policing each other. A mother shared with me, “My school mothers’ WhatsApp group is giving me sleepless nights."
Sat, Aug 10, 2019
Imagine: It’s our society that is broken, not our kidsSubscriber Only
July 27, 2019 06:00 IST
What we see as depression, anxiety, addiction and the growing mental health problem is a sign of a society that is sick. Unfortunately, our children are paying the price for it.
Sat, Jul 27, 2019
Imagine: Busting the myth of laziness — ‘Kids will do well if they can’Subscriber Only
July 13, 2019 06:00 IST
Laziness is not an innate trait, so let’s stop shaming our children about it. They will grow and flourish at their own pace which cannot be dictated by us.
Sat, Jul 13, 2019
Busting the myth of laziness
July 13, 2019 00:05 IST
Let’s stop shaming our children about being lazy. They will grow and flourish at their own pace which cannot be dictated by us.
Sat, Jul 13, 2019
Imagine: Dear Young Readers, are you ready to opt out of a digitally drugged culture?Subscriber Only
June 29, 2019 06:00 IST
The scary thing is that we have accepted this digital clutter so much in our minds and our lives that it has become normal to see people preferring to be on their phones than talk to the person next to them.
Sat, Jun 29, 2019
Imagine: Why parents need meditation or the art of stillness, in a chaotic lifeSubscriber Only
June 15, 2019 06:00 IST
If there is a niggling voice saying to you right now, "All this is rubbish! I can barely go through the day and she is asking me to become a Buddha", listen to that voice, smile and then let it go.
Mon, Jun 17, 2019
Imagine: This summer vacation, don’t be afraid to let kids be boredSubscriber Only
June 01, 2019 06:00 IST
Kids need to be bored. Stillness and solitude is essential to their growth and it is a milestone they have to cross to reach a rich inner life of contemplation and creativity.
Sat, Jun 01, 2019
Imagine: Are we failing our boys? Let’s look beyond the heavy mask of manhoodSubscriber Only
May 18, 2019 06:00 IST
It was Nobel Laureate and eminent novelist, Doris Lessing who pointed out that boys were the new silent victims in the gender war where they are being “continually demeaned and insulted” and subject to “automatic rubbishing”. I couldn’t agree with her more.
Sat, May 18, 2019
Babies need attuned mothers to form trusting bonds, not ‘experts’Subscriber Only
May 04, 2019 06:00 IST
Babies with secure attachments have higher chances of growing up to be socially and emotionally healthy. They carry the message that they are worthy as they are, they can trust others and the world is safe enough to explore.
Sat, May 04, 2019
Imagine: Growing pains and the myth of a carefree childhoodSubscriber Only
April 20, 2019 06:00 IST
We hear our kids have a problem and we want to jump into a full rescue mode. But hold on and instead ask them how they think you could help. If they feel they are not being judged, they might want to discuss their problem with you openly.
Sat, Apr 20, 2019
Growing pains: Myth of carefree childhoodSubscriber Only
April 20, 2019 05:36 IST
What they need to hear from us is, ‘No matter what happens, I have your back!’
Sat, Apr 20, 2019
Imagine: Children with autism are different, not lessSubscriber Only
April 06, 2019 06:00 IST
The child is not damaged or broken so nothing needs to be fixed. Maybe we are bit broken as human beings that we struggle to accept children who do not fit into the neat grooves we design for them.
Sat, Apr 06, 2019
Imagine: Woo your teen back! Who said they need so much of space?Subscriber Only
March 23, 2019 06:00 IST
In the absence of their parents’ attentive involvement, our children are more vulnerable to seeking approval from their peers which can come at the cost of high-risk behaviour for acceptance.
Sat, Mar 23, 2019
IMAGINE: Woo your teen back
March 23, 2019 02:47 IST
Who said they need all that space?
Sat, Mar 23, 2019
Imagine: It is grit that matters more than your child’s gradesSubscriber Only
March 09, 2019 06:00 IST
It is the growth mindset and grit that will determine children’s success in life. From us, they learn that adversity is an invitation to rise above and not give up. They also learn that life is not a sprint, but a marathon.
Tue, Mar 12, 2019
A letter to students: 7 ways to hack exam stress and get ROCKING!Subscriber Only
February 23, 2019 06:00 IST
The best procrastination buster is to break the task into brick by brick or what I call the ‘15-minute rule’. It will cut down the inertia and possibly make it easier for you to come back to it next time.
Sat, Feb 23, 2019
Imagine: Let’s stand up for our children, build emotionally safe spacesSubscriber Only
February 09, 2019 06:00 IST
We need a hashtag campaign on the lines of #speakupforourchildren. And all of us need to be part of it. As the clichéd but powerful phrase goes, “If not now, then when? If not you, then who?”
Sat, Feb 09, 2019Journalism of Courage
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