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Taking a cue from his candid revelation, let’s explore how dating is not always about eating out or watching a movie together.

Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach, emphasised that he wasn’t describing just a cute memory; he was unknowingly describing one of the strongest psychological foundations of lasting love: shared rituals that build emotional safety. “Love isn’t made only in grand gestures. It is sustained in the quiet, consistent, emotionally attuned moments – what we call relationship rituals,” said Delnna.

Waking up before sunrise, dressing for the temple, traveling together, praying silently side by side – these aren’t just spiritual acts, they are acts of co-regulation. “In neuroscience and psychotherapy, co-regulation refers to the nervous system’s ability to return to calm and connection when anchored in a safe, present relationship. When two people engage in emotionally meaningful rituals – especially repeatedly over time – their nervous systems begin to feel safer together. Trust is built, not through words alone, but through presence,” said Delnna.

Here’s what to consider (Photo: Freepik)

Contrary to popular belief, relationships that don’t “look perfect” on the outside often have more resilience on the inside. “When a couple is not performing for society, they can direct that energy toward meeting each other’s needs with honesty and presence. They’re less focused on how others see them and more invested in how they hold space for each other,” shared Delnna.

So if you’re in a relationship, ask yourself:
– Are we creating rituals that restore us, not drain us?
– Are we checking in emotionally, or just checking off to-dos?
– Are we co-existing… or co-creating meaning?

“Because love doesn’t just need passion. It needs practice. The strongest relationships are built, not in moments of perfection, but in moments of shared intention,” shared Delnna.