Nazriya Nazim on life with Fahadh Faasil after his ADHD diagnosis: ‘He might have had this (condition) always’; how partners can adapt to changes

Dealing with a partner’s diagnosis of ADHD can be challenging, but it also presents an opportunity to grow together and strengthen the relationship, said Sahiba Rattan Sethi, counselling psychologist, founder – Ummeed Healing.

Does it change equations?

While it may bring challenges, it can deepen the bond if both partners commit to understanding and adapting. “It requires mutual effort, patience, and a shared willingness to work through the condition together. Embracing this journey with love can make the relationship even stronger. It is challenging to deal with ADHD partners, but it’s possible to manage these symptoms if proper care and awareness is there,” said Sethi.

It’s important to support your partner (Source: Freepik)

To understand ADHD, it’s necessary to take guidance on how to handle their behavior, said Sethi.

Educate yourself: Learn about ADHD—its symptoms, challenges, and strengths. Understanding your partner’s condition helps you empathise and communicate better.
Acknowledge the impact: Recognise how ADHD affects emotions, attention, memory, and behavior. “This awareness helps in managing expectations,” said Sethi.

Adapting to changes

Revisit expectations: Accept that some habits or patterns may need adjustment. For example, tasks requiring focus might take longer.
Be flexible: ADHD often brings impulsivity and disorganization. Flexibility in routines can ease frustration.
Adjust communication styles: Use clear, direct, and compassionate communication. ADHD can affect listening and focus, so avoid overly complex conversations.

Practical tips for caregivers

Encourage treatment: Support your partner in seeking professional help, whether through therapy, medication, or lifestyle changes.
Be a team: Share responsibilities and collaborate on solutions. Consider creating shared calendars, setting reminders, or breaking tasks into smaller steps.
Celebrate strengths: People with ADHD often bring creativity, energy, and unique problem-solving skills. Recognize and appreciate these traits.

Maintaining comfort and connection

Practice patience: Understand that mood swings or forgetfulness are not intentional. This mindset reduces conflict.
Set boundaries: While supporting your partner is important, ensure you also have time for self-care and boundaries to avoid burnout.
Foster emotional intimacy: Validate your partner’s feelings and constructively share your own. Emotional honesty strengthens your bond.

Self-care for you

Build a support network: Connect with other caregivers or join support groups to share experiences and advice.
Seek professional guidance: Consider couple’s therapy or individual counseling to manage stress and improve communication.
Focus on the positives: Remember why you chose to be with your partner. This helps you navigate challenging times with love and compassion.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to. Always consult your health practitioner before starting any routine.