When Kajol expressed her thoughts on infidelity, setting ‘priorities right’ in marriage with Ajay Devgn: ‘Taali dono haathon se bajti hai’; expert lists signs to watch out for

“The fact that we got married…we both believe in the same basic things…our personality types may be different, but the fact of the matter is that we both believe in family…we both believe that loyalty is to each other, and we both believe that we are in this for the long run. We both wanted it to work. We want to be a tight-knit family, the way we are right now….so we both work at it every day. I am not the only one who works at it, he works at it as well…taali dono haathon se bajti hai…(you can only clap with both hands),” said Kajol, adding, “I really like those dark, brooding looks. It’s got to do with my personal taste…”

She also said she makes a point of keeping in touch with all family members. “I keep in touch with everybody in the family. I know that they are family and they know that I am family…we feel that loyalty to each other; on all the occasions, everybody is there…”

As a psychotherapist, Delnna Rrajesh said that while it is easy to reduce cheating to a single act or a single person’s mistake but emotional ruptures never begin at the moment someone crosses a line. They begin in the quiet spaces where two people slowly stop meeting each other emotionally. “I see infidelity not as the root issue but as a symptom of a deeper emotional disconnect. The betrayal is real, and the responsibility for the act lies with the person who cheated. But the relationship itself often shows signs of strain much earlier. These signs are subtle, easily dismissed and often misunderstood until the damage becomes impossible to ignore,” said Delnna.

Here’s what you should consider (Photo: Freepik)

According to Delnna, before the betrayal, there is often emotional loneliness inside the relationship, unaddressed resentment, communication fatigue, or a sense of being taken for granted. “Many couples live as efficient co-managers of a household, but forget to be emotional companions to each other. Over time, the emotional ecosystem weakens,” said Delnna.

Relationships thrive when both partners hold the same internal compass. “When both want loyalty, honesty, mutual respect, and emotional safety, the relationship becomes resilient even in difficult phases. When even one person stops valuing these ideals, distance grows quietly. That distance makes the relationship more vulnerable to rupture,” said Delnna.

This does not mean both partners are equally responsible for the act of cheating. “Accountability is extremely clear. But understanding why it happened requires both partners to examine the emotional patterns that developed between them. Healing, too, requires both to participate consciously,” stressed Delnna.

Repair happens when both people ask difficult questions:

Where did we stop listening to each other
Where did our friendship fade

Where did intimacy become uncomfortable
Where did resentment go unspoken
Where did emotional honesty become inconvenient
These are not just psychological questions but relational truths that every couple must reflect upon, whether or not infidelity is part of their story, said Delnna.

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