When Rajesh Khanna reflected on Dimple Kapadia’s decision to not divorce him: ‘Dilon ki baat hai’; why some people prefer such relationships

Taking a cue from this, let’s understand why some individuals choose to live separately but don’t divorce.

Dr Chandni Tugnait, psychotherapist, coach, and healer, founder and director, Gateway of Healing, said Rajesh Khanna’s statement offered a glimpse into the emotional complexities that often underpin the divorce process.

While a mutual agreement to separate is made, various unexpected dynamics can prevent the finalisation of the divorce. Emotional attachment, unresolved issues, and societal pressures often create barriers that neither partner anticipates. Understanding these factors is essential for anyone going through the divorce process,” said Dr Tugnait.

Here’s why mutual divorces sometimes don’t go as planned

The fear of unspoken regrets

Even when both partners agree to part ways, there’s often an unspoken fear of the finality of divorce. “This fear can manifest as hesitation or last-minute second thoughts, especially when lingering emotional attachments or the thought of ‘what could have been’ resurface,” said Dr Tugnait.

Unresolved emotional dynamics

Mutual divorce may not be straightforward due to deep-rooted emotional dynamics between partners. “Hidden resentments, unhealed wounds, or the absence of closure can keep one or both individuals from fully detaching emotionally,” said Dr Tugnait.

Here’s what to consider (Photo: Freepik)

Fear of the unknown future

Sometimes, the fear of facing life after divorce can overpower any desire to separate. “The unknown, whether it’s financial insecurity, social stigma, or the fear of being alone, can prompt individuals to delay or avoid finalising the divorce,” said Dr Tugnait.

A subtle desire for validation

In some cases, one partner might stall the divorce process, not out of a desire to reconcile, but to seek validation. “By prolonging the process, they might be subconsciously seeking reassurance or confirmation from the other partner, whether for closure, attention, or validation of their feelings,” said Dr Tugnait.

What to note?

While mutual divorce might seem straightforward, underlying emotions, fears, societal pressures, and unspoken expectations can create unexpected roadblocks. “Recognising these complexities can help partners navigate the process more mindfully, ensuring they make informed decisions for their emotional and personal well-being,” said Dr Tugnait.