‘Since I am not married…’: Karan Tacker tells Farah Khan how he brings girls home while living with his parents; what healthy boundaries look like for adult children

Dilip, clearly entertained, chimed in, “I also want to be part of this conversation.” Farah teased him, “Why? You’re married with three children!” prompting Karan to laugh and say, “Yes, please, you’ll learn how to bring girls home behind Farah’s back.”

Describing his living situation, Karan explained, “When we were designing this house, we decided we would all live together. Since I am not married, we made two living rooms, one for my parents and one for me. Whenever I bring someone home, I just text in our family group, ‘I have a friend home.’ It’s our code word for them to stick to their side of the house!” He added, “My parents are really cool, very conducive to the environment.”

So, how can adult children living with their parents establish healthy boundaries that allow for privacy?

Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, The Answer Room, tells indianexpress.com, “House dynamics, existing rules, communication patterns, and parenting style largely shape how adult children can set healthy boundaries while living with parents. For instance, in a home where everyone shares chores and responsibilities, discussing personal schedules and downtime feels more natural. If house rules already promote mutual respect—like knocking before entering rooms—it reinforces privacy without distance.”

She adds that in families where open communication exists, saying, ‘I need some quiet time after work before we catch up,’ is likely to be well received. Similarly, when parents follow an authoritative (not authoritarian) style, adult children can express comfort levels respectfully without being seen as defiant. 

Why is it important for parents to allow their grown children autonomy?

Allowing grown children autonomy acknowledges their evolving identity and builds mutual respect in the parent–adult child dynamic. Khangarot explains that when parents permit choices, they signal trust, reducing rebellion and emotional strain. “It also helps adult children feel seen as individuals, not dependents. Discomfort is natural during this transition; parents may fear losing closeness, while children may feel guilt for asserting independence.” 

 

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What can families do to create an environment of mutual trust and openness?

Families can build trust and openness by normalising honest, non-judgmental conversations. For example, if a parent responds calmly when a child mentions a new friend or dating interest, it signals safety to share more in the future. Setting aside weekly family check-ins — where everyone talks about their week without criticism — can strengthen emotional connection. 

“Parents being open about their own experiences also reduces hierarchy and builds relatability. When conflicts arise, choosing curiosity over control fosters respect. Over time, such consistent empathy turns potentially tense topics into opportunities for deeper understanding,” concludes Khangarot.