NEW DELHI, JANUARY 14: Over the past month, women in various parts of the country were approached by individuals with a strange question — “Are you interested in International Marriage”? Most of the women, who were just walking down shopping centres or other busy areas, simply moved on pretending not to hear them. Very few would have known that they were being invited to join the blessing ceremony to be held in New York later this month, where the Rev Sun Myung Moon would join hundreds of couple in holy matrimony.
At their weekly service today, the preparations for the blessing and welcoming new members were hectic. The reason why they were inviting Indian women from New Delhi, Mumbai, Chennai and Kerala, according to their representatives here, was that Indian `sisters’ had become popular amongst the global family. Unfortunately, they realised that the orthodox families in India, meant that not many `sisters’ were open to the idea of an arranged marriage to an unknown foreigner. Or maybe, the code of conduct of this sect which includes no divorce, no adultery, sexual abstinence till marriage, no abuse of the body including drinking, smoking or even going to the local nightclub — proved too much for them. Result: Only two women have applied from Kerala.
However, this sect called the Family Federation for World Peace and Unification which was set up by Rev Moon in 1960 has a strong and faithful following in India. Since the first blessing ceremony in Cochin in 1997, the movement has spread by primarily by word of mouth, comprising a significant percentage of the over 4 million couples worldwide. And even those, who are already married can renew their vows to follow those of the father, Rev Moon.
“Indians are very spiritual and welcome to the idea of family, so they are more open to the idea of fidelity,”said the group leader in India, Ursula Mackland who is a German married in Bahrain. Today, like every other Sunday, members and couples who had been blessed gathered for a service at their office in Safdarjung Enclave, New Delhi. The service in front of an altar of the Rev Moon and his wife had a format of readings from his teachings. Among those present were Sheba Jacob who works with the YMCA, Delhi.
“I was introduced to the group in 1997 and met my husband,” said Jacob. However, she had a local ceremony as only those who can afford their travel abroad get to be part of the historic blessing. Apart from this they also have to pass an AIDS and sickle-cell test.
Balakrishnan Kapoor, an employee of State Bank of India, was attending the ceremony with his wife from Philippines, Flodilus and their three-year-old daughter, Charu. “After I was introduced to this group, I attended many lectures and sessions,” he said. What drew him in — “This whole belief in fidelity.” He said that his family did not object to the idea of him having an international marriage — “It’s my choice after all.” Although the couple do not speak each other’s language, they are bound by common faith.
As this year’s ceremony nears to coincide with a UN conference from January 26 to January 30, the leaders are busy selecting the lucky couple from India who will be the sole representative in New York. “This year, only one couple from each country is going to be there unlike the few millions last year,” said Ursula.
“Indian men are more forthcoming as they are probably free to make decisions unlike the women,” said member Marilyn Angelou, who is an NGO worker living in India. However, it seems that the Delhi women who they had tried to induct, did not bite the bait.