Neelam Kothari Soni on making a comeback: ‘There’s something empowering about owning your story, even in the public eye’

Q. You were away from the public eye until Fabulous Lives… Season 1 premiered. Why did you decide to make a comeback with this show and open the door to your life and home all at once?

Neelam Kothari Soni: I’d been out of the limelight, focusing on my family, jewellery business, and leading a more private life. But when Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives was presented to me, I saw it as a unique opportunity to show people a different side of me. Fans mostly remember me from my acting days, but I wanted to share more of my real life—my friendships, family, and experiences. It was definitely a step out of my comfort zone, but I felt it was the right time. There’s something empowering about owning your story, even in the public eye.

Q. Would it be right to call this phase in your life Neelam 2.0? How different is the Neelam of today from the yesteryear actor?

Neelam Kothari Soni: “Neelam 2.0” is an interesting way to put it. This phase is definitely different. When I was acting in films, I was still figuring out my place in the world. Now, I’m more settled, confident, and comfortable in my skin. I’ve evolved not just professionally but as a person. Running a business, raising a family, and returning to the spotlight — these experiences have shaped me. That confidence, I believe, comes with age and experience, and I embrace it wholeheartedly.

Q. One thing has remained the same all these years — you look as fit and fabulous as ever. What do your fitness and diet routines include?

Neelam Kothari Soni: I believe in balance regarding fitness and diet. I try to keep my routine consistent with a mix of Pilates, strength training, and yoga. As for my diet, I focus on whole foods and stay hydrated but don’t deprive myself. Being fit is about feeling good from within, not just looking good.

Q. And cheat days? What’s your indulgence?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Oh, absolutely. I believe in treating myself and not being too hard on myself when it comes to food. My guilty pleasure is chocolate. I have a sweet tooth, so indulging in some good dark chocolate or a rich dessert is my ultimate cheat-day treat.

Q. On the show, you have spoken about it all — ageing, menopause, designer vaginas, getting fillers, and making a comeback. Is the show more of a stepping stone for a new chapter in the entertainment world?

Neelam Kothari Soni: The show has reintroduced me to a larger audience, but I see it more as a platform to discuss things women my age often shy away from. I don’t necessarily view it as a stepping stone for a new acting career; it’s more about having honest conversations. Aeing to menopause, or any of the other topics we touch on, I believe it’s important to normalise these discussions. If it leads to more projects, great, but my focus is on authenticity and being true to myself.

Q. Your comeback has put you in the social media spotlight. Has that affected your mental health?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Social media is a double-edged sword. It’s wonderful for connecting with fans and showcasing your work, but it also brings scrutiny. There’s pressure to present yourself a certain way, which can affect mental health. Back in the day, we didn’t have this kind of access, so things felt less immediate. Today, I take it with a pinch of salt, reminding myself that no one is perfect, and it’s important to take breaks from the digital world when needed.. Mental well-being is a priority, so I’m mindful of not getting too consumed by it.

Q. Tell us about Season 3––Fabulous Lives vs Bollywood Wives––and why would/should Mumbai win?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Season 3 is packed with more drama, more laughter, and more insights into our lives. It’s a fun, unapologetic look at our friendships and the dynamics that come with being in the public eye. As for why Mumbai should win? It’s home—the city that never sleeps and a place filled with energy and spirit. We embody that essence on the show, so I’d say Mumbai is always a winner.

Q. What is your idea of fashion? Has it changed over time?

Neelam Kothari Soni: My fashion sense has definitely evolved. In my younger years, I followed trends more, but now I value timeless, classic pieces. Comfort is key, and I gravitate towards simple yet elegant styles. Less is more, and I find myself gravitating towards styles that are understated but chic. I still enjoy experimenting with fashion now and then, but I believe fashion should always reflect who you are at your core, and for me, that means effortless style.

Q. You have a young daughter. What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned from parenting, and what do you hope to teach her?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Parenting has taught me patience and the importance of leading by example. As a mother, you’re constantly learning, and every day brings new lessons. The most important thing I’ve tried to teach my daughter is to be kind, confident, and true to herself. I want her to grow up knowing that she has the power to be whoever she wants, and that she should always treat others with respect and empathy.

Q. Your husband and you seem poles apart. How do you balance this in your marriage? What, as per you, is the secret to a successful relationship?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Yes, we’re very different, but I think that’s what makes our relationship work. We balance each other out. The key to a successful marriage is mutual respect and understanding. We give each other space to be ourselves and support each other’s passions. Communication is also crucial—it helps us navigate life’s ups and downs together.

Q. One thing not many people know about Neelam?

Neelam Kothari Soni: I’m quite the homebody! I love spending time at home, reading, working on jewellery designs, or just being with family. While I may seem glamorous on screen, I cherish my quiet moments.

Q. What’s been the most challenging thing you’ve done as an actor?

Neelam Kothari Soni: Returning to acting after such a long break was challenging. It wasn’t just about memorising lines but overcoming self-doubt and finding the confidence to face the camera again. The industry has evolved so much since my early days, and adapting was challenging but also incredibly rewarding.