Navigating single parenthood: How to tackle challenges of being a single parent

It is a journey marked by financial pressures, emotional turbulence, and psychological impact on both the parent and their child. In this article, we delve into the multifaceted challenges faced by single parents, shedding light on the financial burdens, emotional struggles, and the psychological well-being of both the parent and their offspring.

Financial problems

Most modern nuclear families these days have both spouses working and thus have the benefit of having dual sources of income. Each spouse manages specific financial obligations and contributes to raising the family. With a single parent, one of the most common practical challenges that comes into picture is an increased financial burden.

There’s no harm in indulging yourself and your child every once in a while, but you might also have to ruthlessly cut on expenses that are unnecessary. Having an open discussion with your child about finances will also be required.

It’s very important to financially educate yourself so that you can start saving as early as you can. Savings is not just about keeping aside a part of your monthly income; it can also be an important source of secondary income through investments, stocks and so on.

Psychological issues in the single parent

When the parent feels nurtured, it naturally creates a healthy and nurturing atmosphere for the child as well. (Source: Freepik)

In the aftermath of a separation/ divorce/ death of a spouse, the single parent can experience a lot of tumultuous emotions. This is brought on by the sudden absence of a support system, and a shoulder to lean on, the parent can go through a lot of negative emotions like loneliness, isolation and lack of confidence, and even feelings of guilt. Quite frequently, it’s also perpetrated by certain family members and the stereotypical society who can a problematic attitude towards single parents.

Do not hesitate to talk to your friends and family, even though there might be an initial awkwardness and hesitancy about revealing them the details of your personal life.

It’s important that you take care of yourself and engage in activities that help you gain back your self-worth. When the parent feels nurtured, it naturally creates a healthy and nurturing atmosphere for the child as well. In case of severe emotional issues that affects your work, health and relationships, do not hesitate to talk to a mental health professional.

Psychological issues in children

Children of single parents are at a high risk of experiencing psychological issues due to a variety of reasons: lack of a parent (and quite often an authority figure), a messy divorce, stigma from society, problematic parenting.

This can not only affect their grades in school, but also affect their relationship with their parent and the way they in general look at relationships. They may even find it difficult to accept new relationships of their parent.

Badmouthing your ex-partner in front of your child is never a good idea. As the child grows, it’s a good idea to discuss the realities of relationships in life. Seek help of your extended family so that they can provide good role models and a support system to balance the lack of a parent.

Wanting to raise your child like a friend sounds good on paper; but instilling discipline, accountability and empathy form an important part of raising children to become responsible adults. In case of behavioural problems, do not hesitate to approach a mental health professional.

Single parenting, while it comes with its own set of challenges, also offers opportunities for growth, resilience, and nurturing unique bonds with children.

Addressing financial difficulties, seeking emotional support, and ensuring the psychological well-being of both the parent and child are crucial steps in navigating this journey.

By recognising the hurdles and proactively addressing them, single parents can create a stable and loving environment for their children to thrive despite the challenges they face.

(Dr Sachin Baliga is a consultant of psychiatry at Fortis Hospital, Bannerghatta Road, Bengaluru)

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