‘Don’t go alone…,’ Twinkle Khanna on teaching safety lessons to daughter; how to ensure your child is secure in today’s complex world

The note also read, “Don’t go alone because it’s not a matter of if, but when. Don’t go alone because you may never come back.”

 

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This highlights the persistent concerns that parents have about their children’s safety, despite the passage of time and the evolution of societal norms. In today’s digital age, the landscape of safety has expanded far beyond physical spaces. 

Shubham Kumar, deputy superintendent of Police Bhiti, Ambedkarnagar, Uttar Pradesh, tells indianexpress.com, “Safety concerns for children have undoubtedly transformed across generations. In the past, worries largely revolved around physical safety — stranger danger, road safety, and playground mishaps. While these concerns persist, the digital age has introduced a new layer of complexity.”

Online Predators: Children today are exposed to a vast online world, where predators can lurk in chat rooms, social media platforms, and gaming communities. Protecting them from online grooming and exploitation requires vigilance and digital literacy.

Cyberbullying: The anonymity of the internet can embolden bullies, making cyberbullying a pervasive and insidious threat to children’s mental health and self-esteem.

Exposure to Inappropriate Content: With just a few clicks, children can access age-inappropriate content, which can be disturbing, confusing, and potentially harmful to their development.

Data Privacy Concerns: From online games to social media apps, children’s personal data is constantly being collected and shared. It’s essential to educate them about data privacy and the potential risks associated with sharing information online.

While the digital age has introduced new challenges, Kumar stresses that it’s important to remember that the physical world hasn’t become any less risky. “Road accidents, accidental injuries, and natural disasters continue to pose threats to children’s safety. Therefore, a balanced approach to safety education that addresses both physical and online risks is essential.”

What works

Kumar says, “It’s crucial to find a balance between safety education and fostering independence and confidence in children. While it’s important to educate children about potential dangers, the focus should be on empowering them to make smart choices rather than instilling fear.”

Allow children to gradually gain more independence as they mature, while still providing appropriate supervision and guidance. Acknowledge their successes and encourage them to step outside their comfort zone, building confidence and resilience.

He recommends teaching children problem-solving skills so they can navigate challenges and make responsible decisions on their own. Create an atmosphere of trust and mutual respect, where children feel comfortable coming to you with questions or concerns.

The anonymity of the internet can embolden bullies, making cyberbullying a pervasive and insidious threat to children’s mental health and self-esteem. (Source: Freepik)

What doesn’t work

While it’s natural to want to shield your children from harm, overprotection can hinder their development and create anxiety, notes Kumar. “Allow them age-appropriate freedoms and opportunities to learn from their mistakes.”

Don’t dismiss online threats or assume your child is immune to them. Stay informed about current online trends and dangers, and have open conversations about internet safety. 

Kumar states, “Safety encompasses more than just physical well-being. Address emotional safety by teaching children about boundaries, healthy relationships, and how to recognise and respond to inappropriate behaviour. Maintain open and honest communication with your children. Create a safe space where they can talk about their experiences without fear of judgement or punishment.”