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Mukerji’s hack is based on the principle of reverse psychology, which Dr Pavana S, consultant psychiatrist, relationship expert and sexologist, Bangalore, defined as a psychological strategy where individuals encourage others to do the opposite of what they desire by presenting a counterintuitive suggestion. “Employed in various contexts, it manipulates human behaviour by exploiting the natural tendency to resist direct persuasion,” she explained.

This subtle form of persuasion often relies on the desire for autonomy, making the target feel in control while unknowingly following the suggested course. From parenting to marketing, reverse psychology plays a role in influencing decisions. While controversial, its effectiveness raises ethical questions about the boundaries of psychological manipulation in interpersonal relationships and societal interactions, according to Dr Pavana.

In parenting and relationships, reverse psychology can be a double-edged sword. While it might be employed with good intentions, such as prompting a child to consider alternative perspectives, its use can lead to misunderstandings and erode trust, said Dr Pavana.

“Employing reverse psychology to manipulate a kid’s behaviour can be perceived as deceitful, potentially harming the foundation of mutual respect. Ethical considerations come into play, as transparency and open communication are crucial in healthy relationships,” she added.

Should you use reverse psychology in parenting? (Source: Freepik)

While she acknowledged that it might serve as a short-term strategy to avoid confrontation, its effectiveness can be limited in fostering genuine understanding and resolution. Over-reliance on such tactics may lead to communication breakdowns and undermine the authenticity of the bond between parents and children. Healthy communication, empathy, and compromise are more sustainable tools for conflict resolution.

Rima Bhandekar, Psychologist Mpower Aditya Birla Education Trust added that at times reverse psychology as a parenting hack can be used wisely, as it uses their need for autonomy without coming across as too much controlling.

When is it effective? “When you want stubborn kids to do something you know they will defy. Sometimes, offering a one, desirable option to kids, makes it easier for them to take action without feeling stuck of choosing two or more options,” she said.

What can you do instead

Dr Pavana shared some alternate strategies to convince your child to do something without using reverse psychology.

Effective Communication: Develop open and honest communication to express needs and concerns directly.

Active Listening: Cultivate the skill of listening empathetically to understand your partner’s perspective.

Compromise and Collaboration: Seek mutually beneficial solutions through compromise, promoting teamwork.

Therapeutic Support: Consider couples counselling for professional guidance in navigating conflicts and improving communication.

Building Trust: Prioritise trust-building activities to create a foundation of honesty and reliability in the relationship.