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Actor Arjun Kapoor’s sister, Anshula Kapoor, recently got engaged to her longtime boyfriend Rohan Thakkar in an intimate ceremony held at her father Boney Kapoor’s Bandra home. The celebration, attended by the entire Kapoor family, was filled with emotional and heartfelt moments — including a touching tribute to her late mother, Mona Shourie Kapoor.
Falling in love doesn’t always happen on a timeline, and sometimes, waiting allows you to enter a relationship with more clarity and confidence. As Anshula embarks on this new chapter, we take a look at a recent post where she reflected on her experience of beginning her first relationship in her 30s, reflecting on why it felt right for her.
In a heartfelt Instagram post, she wrote: “Honestly, I didn’t think my first relationship would begin after I turned 30. But I’m glad it took its own time to happen, because somewhere along the way, I understood myself, my needs & my boundaries a lot better. And I entered my relationship knowing who I was and what I wanted. Most importantly, I was in an emotional and mental place of being ready to receive the love when I finally found the person I wanted to share my heart with.”
She also described what this stage of life has taught her about love, adding, “This version of me in my 30s values the quiet trust, the small gestures, the chaos and the peaceful silences of doing nothing together. It’s the comfort of knowing that your person will show up no matter what.”
And for anyone who feels they are “late” to love, her reminder was simple yet powerful: “If you’re starting later than the world expects you to, please know this: you’re not late, you’re just right on time for the version of you that was meant to love this way.”
Sakshi Mandhyan, Psychologist and founder at Mandhyan Care, tells indianexpress.com, “Dating differs in both the 20s and 30s due to the developmental stages and maturation that we go through. The 20s are characterised by the final stages of brain development, crucial for neural wiring. Complex decision-making and executive function refinement, such as planning, prioritising, and impulse control, are typically completed by the mid to late 20s. In contrast, in the 30s, fluid intelligence is at its peak, which means we integrate problem-solving and pattern identification better during this decade. Hence, dating in the 20s often feels like trial and error, and in the 30s, we feel more grounded due to better clarity.”
Mandhyan notes that self-awareness and understanding of boundaries are crucial components of emotional intelligence. “A person with good emotional quotient naturally becomes a green flag; exhibits more security, self-regulation, and emotional stability. This individual would deal with the waves in relation to resilience and compassion.”
When you understand things about yourself, she says that you can communicate them early and avoid a lot of unnecessary conflict. “Boundaries don’t push people away. Rather, they create a safe structure where love can grow without either partner feeling lost or suffocated.
In many ways, self-awareness becomes a resourceful toolkit that makes relationships steadier.”
Mandhyan states, “I would say treat finding love with more of a partnership mindset and not from a time scarcity mindset. Feeling late is usually about comparing yourself to others. And we very well know that the more we compare ourselves to others, the more we feel pressured and away from our unique self.”
Check with yourself:
