Zaheer Iqbal opens up about nerve-wracking conversation with father-in-law Shatrughan Sinha: ‘When I had to go take permission to propose…’

“When I had to go take permission to propose, I was so scared… and I was shaking… I thought baat kar raha hun aur pata chale he says, ‘khamosh!’. Unke ghar pe baitha hun toh kya karunga?” Zaheer Iqbal said

By: Lifestyle Desk
New Delhi | Updated: January 16, 2025 10:03 AM IST

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Despite his initial apprehension, Zaheer Iqbal was relieved to find Shatrughan Sinha supportive and kind. (Source: Instagram/Sonakshi Sinha)

Zaheer Iqbal recently shared his nervous experience speaking to Shatrughan Sinha, father of his wife Sonakshi Sinha, about their relationship and plans to take the next step.

In an interview with Galatta India, Iqbal revealed, “When I had to go take permission to propose, I was so scared… and I was shaking… I thought baat kar raha hun aur pata chale he says, ‘khamosh!’. Unke ghar pe baitha hun toh kya karunga?”

Despite his initial apprehension, Iqbal was relieved to find Shatrughan Sinha supportive and kind. “But he was so nice about it, and he was so lovely,” he said.

When asked about the details of the conversation he had with his father-in-law, Iqbal jokingly said, “Hakla ke I told him, ‘Uncle woh actually Sona ne aapko bataya hoga ke we are…’, to which he replied, ‘Haan bataya toh tha.’ Toh I was like, do you not know where I’m going with this? I said, ‘Uncle main soch raha tha main poora propose kar deta hun.’”

Iqbal revealed that they had a “nice one-hour conversation about everything”, trying to get to know each other better. “But I was really scared when I entered that room, I was like, na bol diya toh kya karunga main?” Eventually, the couple tied the knot in June last year.

Iqbal’s story highlights how challenging and important it can be to approach this milestone with respect and confidence.

The best ways to prepare before approaching your partner’s parents about taking the next step

Psychologist Anjali Gursahaney tells indianexpress.com, “When preparing emotionally and practically for the conversation, start by clarifying your intentions — reflect on why you’re ready to take this step, as confidence in your decision will help you articulate your feelings.”

Acknowledge any nerves but focus on the bigger picture — your love for their child and your commitment, she adds. Discuss the conversation with your partner to align on timing, the message you want to convey, and any specific expectations their parents might have.

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Practically, research cultural norms or traditions that might apply and ensure you honour them. Choose a comfortable and private environment for the conversation, and rehearse your points to express your intentions clearly and sincerely, Gursahaney suggests.

While aiming for approval, be ready to address doubts and engage in further discussions if needed. (Source: Freepik)

Communicating intentions respectfully

Gursahaney recommends, “Begin by expressing gratitude and acknowledging the role the parents have played in shaping your partner’s life, such as saying, ‘Thank you for raising such a wonderful person who means so much to me.’ Be honest and direct in expressing your feelings and intentions, like saying, ‘I deeply love and respect [partner’s name] and would like your blessing as we take the next step in our journey together.’ Listen actively, giving them space to share their thoughts or concerns, and avoid interrupting to show that you value their input. Stay calm and respond to any objections with understanding and patience, rather than defensiveness.”