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A Chinese man with a law degree from Zhejiang University has claimed that his marriage fell apart after he lost his well-paid job, according to a report by 163.com, cited by the South China Morning Post.
The 43-year-old, surnamed Qianqian, once held a lucrative white-collar role at a state-owned enterprise in Hangzhou, earning around 50,000 yuan (Rs 6.2 lakh, approximately) each month. But five years ago, he abruptly lost that job, the reason wasn’t revealed in the report, and his life took a sharp turn.
With no comparable opportunities available, he began working as a food-delivery driver, bringing in under 10,000 yuan (Rs 1.2 lakh, approximately) monthly. Not long after his income dropped, his wife asked for a divorce.
Speaking to local media, Qianqian said he eventually realised that “she actually does not love me, but instead my willingness to support her materialistic desire.” He admitted he once believed she was the great love of his life, saying, “She is the woman I have loved most.”
The two had met online through gaming, and he recalled knowing that many men were drawn to her because of her beauty. Looking back, he now believes she chose him because he could afford her lifestyle, not because of any genuine affection. “She finally chose me not because she liked my personality or my look, but because I was quite ready to give her money for whatever she wanted to buy,” he said.
He also acknowledged his own superficiality at the time. He was captivated by her appearance and focused only on winning her over. “My goal at that time was to occupy her… I did not think much about whether she liked me or not.”
According to the report, his wife never worked and lived entirely off his income. She bought multiple outfits in different colours, used luxury skincare products even on her hands and feet, took expensive supplements and underwent various cosmetic treatments. At one point, she purchased two designer handbags costing over 15,000 yuan (Rs 1.8 lakh, approximately) each.
To keep up with her spending, Qianqian eventually sold his apartment. “When we divorced, we did not have any common property because I did not have any money left,” he said.
Now, he says he feels strangely calm living a simpler life. Delivering food may be lonely work, but he describes himself as “lonely but free.”
Despite everything, he insists he has no bitterness toward his ex-wife. “I do not hate my ex wife,” he said. “What I lost during my last marriage is not money, but my precious youth.”
