Shahid Kapoor opens up about navigating marriage with wife Mira: ‘We are on separate tracks’

"A good and healthy marriage is one where you know there's nothing called a perfect marriage," said Shahid Kapoor.

New Delhi | February 2, 2025 11:58 AM IST

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Shahid Kapoor talks about his marriage with wife Mira. (Source: Instagram/@shahidkapoor)

Shahid Kapoor’s journey from navigating heartbreak and self-doubt to discovering personal growth and balance in life has been captured articulately in a podcast episode with host Raj Shamani. During the conversation, the Kabir Singh star spoke about his views on marriage and relationships, including how he navigates the significant age gap between him and his wife Mira.

According to Shahid, there is no such thing as a “perfect marriage”, and we should avoid using it as it usually leads to disappointment. “A good and healthy marriage is one where you know there’s nothing called a perfect marriage,” he told the host.

“The first thing in a marriage you have to accept is that we are not on the same track. We are on separate tracks, choosing to move forward together. Your shared life experience cannot take away from your individual life experience. It has to add to that and at times you have to be able to give space to the other person to sense, feel, explore their individuality, even though you might be needy at that time,” said the actor.

“In my marriage, because Mira is younger than me by a bit, our journeys in life are at different stages right now. So, recognising first your individuality as a person, and recognising how each of us is in a different phase, and allowing each other to do what we need to do is a very big part of our marriage,” recalled the Kabir Singh actor.

He also revealed that segmenting who vetoes what is very important and goes a long way in avoiding conflicts down the line. “We both have an opinion of these areas but in some aspects, one gets the final say over the other. For example, when the kids are unwell and say Mira is travelling, she gets the veto because she’s on top of all things related to the children. Similarly, when it comes to cars, I call the shots.”

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Counselling psychologist Priyamvada Tendulkar told indianexpress.com that the need for space in a relationship helps balance the forces of attachment with force of individuality. “We have both these needs within us. Too much attachment can stifle individuality (space/pressure core wound). Too much individuality can wither attachment (abandonment/neglect core wound). Hence, there is a need to balance both in order to sustain healthy relationships,” she added.

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