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Journalism of Courage
Sargun Mehta and Ravi Dubey always serve couple goals. While on my occasions, they have shared their mantra for a successful relationship, this time, Sargun taught her fans and followers a valuable lesson in respect. “Apne aas paas bhi, like a lot of places, log badi aasani se apne partner ka mazaak udaate hai…jokes me bhi mazaak udhaa lete hai…ki makeup ke bina aayi hai…bhootni lag rahi hai…they casually say stuff about their partner, about their wives,” Sargun, 37, said.
Speaking to Pinkvilla, she added that pulling their leg every time is not acceptable. “Arey, yeh toh aise hi karti hai…isko nahi aata, or bring them down…I feel like apne bande ke baare me aise kaise bol rahe ho? How can you talk about your partner like this? Even if it is a joke. How can you do it sitting with 5 people? So, I think people‘s basic senses are out,” shared the actor.
Public teasing in a relationship carries a psychological weight that many couples underestimate, concurred Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach.
“In a world where humour is often celebrated as a marker of closeness, what isn’t spoken about enough is the cost of laughter that comes at the expense of your partner’s dignity. It is these small, seemingly trivial moments that silently shape trust, intimacy and the emotional architecture of a relationship,” said Delnna.
How public teasing may affect
The way partners speak about each other in public is a mirror of the emotional foundation in private. “Protecting your partner’s dignity in a room full of people is not weakness; it is strength. It’s the quiet language of loyalty and respect,” reflected Delnna.
Public teasing isn’t just a social moment. “It activates an old and very primal survival response. When someone becomes the punchline in a group, their nervous system reads it as exposure and social threat. The body registers subtle shame and fear long before the mind rationalises it as ‘It was just a joke, ‘” expressed Delnna.
When such moments are repeated without acknowledgement or repair, the brain begins to associate public settings with a lack of safety. According to the expert, over time, partners start to withdraw emotionally, not dramatically but quietly — by laughing less, sharing less, trusting less.
Not everyone receives humour in the same way. While one partner may be open, expressive and comfortable being teased, the other may be private, sensitive or carry unhealed emotional wounds.
“A comment that seems light to one person can collide with a lifetime of buried pain for another. What seems like a passing remark about weight, money, family, intelligence, or past mistakes can touch old inner-child wounds — memories of ridicule, criticism, or shame. The sting of that moment isn’t about the joke itself. It’s about everything it awakens,” Delnna expressed.
What helps?
The goal isn’t to remove humour. “It’s to elevate it. True humour is meant to bond, not bruise. For couples, this means creating a shared understanding of boundaries, sensitivity, and consent,” shared Delnna.
