Shahid Kapoor says he lost self respect, dignity in past relationships; heartbreaks taught him who he can ‘tolerate’

Shahid Kapoor shared that he has been through many heartbreaks, and sometimes, he felt like he was losing his dignity in trying to patch things up.

By: Entertainment Desk

New Delhi | January 30, 2025 09:43 AM IST

3 min read

Shahid Kapoor opened up about his past relationships. (Photo: Shahid Kapoor/Instagram)

Shahid Kapoor was fairly new in the film business when he decided to open up about his personal life, and his then-girlfriend Kareena Kapoor. The two broke up a few years after that, and Shahid never acknowledged any other relationship, until he got married to his wife, Mira Rajput, in 2015. Before tying the knot, Shahid was rumoured to be in a relationship with a few other actors but he never opened up about them to the world. Now, in a recent interview, Shahid spoke about his many heartbreaks, and said that “all of them changed me in some way.”

In a chat with Raj Shamani on his YouTube channel, Shahid said that sometimes, when one goes through a heartbreak, they feel that they are not good enough. “Sometimes you love someone so much that when they reject you, you chase them to a degree that you start losing your dignity. You sacrifice your dignity and you don’t even realise that you have lost your self respect in the process, and that realisation happens much later and you think, ‘What was I doing?'”

Shahid said that these are the moments when “you decide who you want to become, and if it hasn’t helped you decide who you want to become, then you have wasted the opportunity, or you have not gotten anything good out of it.” When asked what he learnt from these experiences, Shahid said that it is only after a heartbreak that one figures out “what kind of partner you can tolerate.”

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“Because falling in love with someone is different but you need to understand if they are bringing the best or worst out of you because eventually, you have to live with yourself,” he said and added, “What I have learnt from love is that one should not be needy of something from the other person. That’s a very selfish reason to want to find love. ‘I am needy, I need to be comforted, I need to be made to feel like I am so important, I can’t see beyond this person’, all of this is selfish. We all want that love and attention but eventually, you should be able to give in a relationship. You should be able to be the giver.”

Shahid said that a relationship spirals when one of the partners starts asking for things, and the other partner starts feeling the pressure. “You think it’s your right, but if it was your right, you would have gotten it,” he said.

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