Struggling to maintain adult friendships? Here are some tips to stay connected

Life throws a lot our way, demanding careers, family obligations, and geographical distance can all make staying connected with friends a challenge.

By: Lifestyle Desk
New Delhi | September 22, 2024 10:25 AM IST

Friendships naturally evolve as people become and undergo personal growth. (Source: Freepik)

Maintaining strong friendships as adults can feel like a constant balancing act, Srishti Vatsa, a Counselling Psychologist, acknowledges the complexities of maintaining adult friendships. “Life becomes busier as we age, priorities shift, and geographical distances often grow,” she explained. These factors, coupled with the reliance on social media for connection, can make it difficult to nurture deep, personal bonds.

The Challenges of Connection

Maintaining adult friendships requires navigating a web of challenges, according to Vatsa. “Work, family, and personal commitments” often leave limited time, while relocations add distance. Poor communication can further strain relationships, leading to misunderstandings and resentment.

The importance of effort

Vatsa emphasises the importance of effort and understanding. “Open communication, understanding each other’s life changes, and making time for meaningful interactions are crucial” for sustaining strong bonds. Setting realistic expectations and acknowledging that friendships evolve over time, is also key.

Despite hurdles, strong friendships bloom with open communication, mutual effort, and empathy. (Source: Freepik)

Maintaining connections in the digital age

The rise of technology presents a double-edged sword. While social media can help maintain contact, Vatsa warns that these interactions “may not always foster a deep personal and emotional connection.” Prioritising social interaction and breaking free from isolation are crucial for human connection and well-being.

Tips to strengthen connections

Vatsa offered practical advice, “Make it a habit to have regular catch-ups, even if it’s a quick phone call.” Sharing life developments and initiating plans demonstrate commitment. For more personal sharing, consider a friend’s emotional bandwidth before confiding in them. Engaging in virtual activities, shared hobbies, or group outings can also strengthen connections.

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One-sided friendships

One-sided friendships can be draining. Vatsa suggested open communication to address the issue. “Recognise that your friend’s definition of connection might differ from yours,” she advised. Setting boundaries, limiting the energy invested, and prioritising your well-being are all crucial steps. Sometimes, letting go of a toxic friendship might be the healthiest option.

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Maintaining adult friendships requires effort, understanding, and open communication. By prioritising connection and setting healthy boundaries, individuals can cultivate rewarding and supportive relationships throughout their lives.