How can you tell if you’re in a relationship or situationship? Psychologist weighs in

Self-evaluation can help you make clearer decisions about your emotional well-being and whether to continue investing in the relationship.

By: Lifestyle Desk
New Delhi | December 28, 2024 07:00 PM IST

3 min read

Self introspection is key to figure out your relationship status. (Source: Freepik)

Dating can be confusing. With several labels and terms encompassing the essence of relationships, you might find yourself scratching your head as to where you belong. If you have recently found yourself wondering whether you are in a relationship or a situationship, indianexpress.com comes to your rescue!

Counselling psychologist Srishti Vatsa shared that a situationship is a relationship that lacks clear boundaries, commitment, or future planning, often leaving one person feeling uncertain about the other’s intentions.

Common signs that you are in a situationship include minimal emotional sharing or, conversely, overwhelming drama early on, with little effort to actively listen or engage. “The person may come on strong initially but then fade away without explanation, avoid discussions about the future, and leave you constantly trying to decipher mixed signals. You might find yourself preoccupied with why they aren’t reaching out, while they remain distracted or disengaged, often prioritising other things, like scrolling on their phone, even when physically present,” she explained.

According to Vatsa, self-awareness is key to understanding your needs and emotions, helping you recognise when a relationship is fulfilling or when it’s time to step away from something uncommitted or emotionally unavailable. Reflecting on feelings and your actions can guide you toward more mindful decisions about your emotional well-being.

When you find yourself asking this question, Vatsa encouraged doing the following:

• Check for Anger or Resentment: Ask yourself, “Am I angry because my emotions are being dismissed, or do I feel unseen and unheard?” These feelings can signal unmet emotional needs.

• Understand Your Own Actions: Reflect on why you might be pushing for a commitment from someone who has shown they’re not interested. Ask yourself, “Why am I trying to make this work when it’s clear the other person isn’t invested?”

According to her, self-evaluation can help you make clearer decisions about your emotional well-being and whether to continue investing in the relationship.

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Are you in a situationship? (Source: Pexels)

“Healthy relationships are built on trust, balance, and mutual respect. They can often feel “boring” because there’s a comforting sense of peace and security because neither person is walking on eggshells or constantly navigating unnecessary drama,” she finally added.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to. Always consult your health practitioner before starting any routine.

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