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Moving on from a toxic relationship can be a deeply personal and often painful journey. Adhyayan Suman, actor and anchor, Shekhar Suman’s son, recently opened up about finding closure after a tumultuous chapter in his life.
During an interview with Siddharth Kanan, he reflected on his past relationship with Kangana Ranaut, which had made headlines in 2016 when he alleged emotional and physical abuse. While he refrained from revisiting the details, his words pointed to a long healing process. I wanted to talk about my story only once, I’m not interested zehen mein bhi nahi tha (I didn’t even think of it), I’m just saying that meri kahani mujhe logo tak pochani bohot zaruri thi, 7 saal jo bhi main chup raha aur mujhe jo kehna tha usko kehkar (It was very important for me to share my story with people, after staying silent for 7 years, I finally said what I needed to say). I have let it go now in peace. I had to let that go.”
Adhyayan had earlier spoken about his experiences in a 2016 interview, where he also accused Kangana of practising ‘black magic’ on him. His father, actor Shekhar Suman, echoed his son’s approach to moving on, telling Zoom, “We are not hanging on to it — neither the family nor Adhyayan. It was a phase in their life. Who are we to comment and judge? We have gone on our way, and everyone is working towards their happiness and contentment. There is no point turning around or pointing fingers or saying ‘this is right’ or ‘this is wrong.’”
Gurleen Baruah, existential psychotherapist at That Culture Thing, tells indianexpress.com, “When someone goes through emotional or psychological trauma in a relationship, especially at a young age, it doesn’t just hurt in the moment, it confuses your sense of who you are. But healing starts when you name what happened and stop protecting the person who hurt you.”
She adds that healing takes time. “Talking to someone you trust, going to therapy, even just writing it down, can begin to untangle it. You’re not trying to erase the past, you’re trying to understand it, so it doesn’t keep defining your future. And slowly, you find the parts of you lost in all that pain,” Baruah notes.
Closure isn’t about getting answers from the other person or resolving everything. “It’s about reaching a point where you feel at peace with what happened. It means accepting the reality of the experience, acknowledging the hurt, and still choosing to be kind to yourself,” highlights Baruah.
Real closure shows up when the story no longer controls your emotions. You remember, but you’re not consumed. You’ve learned what you needed to, and even if it wasn’t fair or deserved, you’re not carrying it the same way anymore, says the psychotherapist.
Baruah states, “Having people who listen, believe what was shared, and offer steady emotional support helps a person feel less alone. It also allows them to rebuild their sense of trust slowly.”
At the same time, she says that not all support systems are perfect. “Sometimes, families may unintentionally downplay the experience, stay neutral, or even support the person who caused the harm—especially when reputation, relationships, or power is involved. That’s why genuine support needs to be clear, compassionate, and rooted in care, not silence or pressure.”
