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Archana Puran Singh and her son, Aaryamann Sethi, recently sat down for a conversation about her life and journey. During the discussion, Archana reflected on her marriage with husband and actor Parmeet Sethi. “Papa and I were going through a difficult phase…Everyone says Archana and Parmeet have a perfect marriage. What is a perfect couple? Perfect couples are those who have managed to overcome life’s challenges. Our marriage had a lot of challenges. We made mistakes in understanding each other, there were misunderstandings, sometimes ego, or both of us felt weak at the same time. You guys were little; I realised that for my children, he is the most lovable father. Mujhse zyaada kisine tumse pyaar kiya hai woh hai tumhare papa (if anyone has loved my children more than me, that person is your father). So I said, How can I let this marriage fail? That is when I joined a meditation course and also convinced him to do so,” Archana, 62, said.
An overwhelmed Archana revealed that after practicing Sudarshan Kriya, Parmeet told her, “During the Kriya, I saw you as the most beautiful woman on this Earth. At a time when we were fighting, he said, I saw you were loving me and I was loving you…that is when we realised that we love each other so much that we are soulmates, and we were doing stupidity.”
According to Archana, it gave the couple “strength”, and “We started talking to each other, we meditated, we did pranayam, Sudarshan Kriya, everything…meditation helps you change your purview. We started appreciating our real nature. Let’s start anew. That’s what we did. That’s why people call us the perfect couple. We are not the perfect couple; we are far from it. We are still madly in love with each other. It’s a different kind of love. It’s a love of acceptance, forgiveness, caring, understanding, and compromise. Both the partners have to adjust.”
Taking a cue from her admission, let’s understand how love is also fraught with challenges.
We are conditioned to look for a “perfect” partner or a “perfect” marriage, but perfection doesn’t exist. “What truly creates resilience is what Archana described beautifully. Acceptance, forgiveness, care, understanding, and compromise,” said Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist, energy healer, and life coach.
Delnna noted that conflict is not the enemy of love; disconnection is. “What matters is not whether you fight, but whether you fight with respect. Not whether you struggle, but whether you keep returning to the relationship with humility and a willingness to repair,” said Delnna.
Meditation played a huge role for them. “And it’s no surprise. Practices like Sudarshan Kriya, breathwork, or mindfulness are not just spiritual add-ons, they regulate the nervous system, lower reactivity, and help couples reconnect to their deeper values rather than reacting from temporary hurt,” said Delnna.
But even beyond spiritual practices, sustaining love requires practical habits:
*Talk even when it’s uncomfortable. Silence builds walls faster than anger.
*Acknowledge your partner’s strengths out loud. Appreciation is the oxygen of long relationships.
*Learn to self-regulate before you communicate. A nervous system in chaos can’t hold space for love.
*Remember why you chose each other. In moments of conflict, return to the roots—the qualities that made you fall in love.
The truth is, every long-term relationship will encounter storms. “What makes some marriages stand the test of time is not the absence of those storms, but the ability to anchor each other through them,” said Delnna.
