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Wednesday, February 19, 2020

Shelja Sen


Shelja Sen is co-founder of Children First, a child and adolescent mental health institute, and author of Imagine: No Child Left Invisible; All You Need is Love: The Art of Mindful Parenting; Reclaim Your Life: Going Beyond Silence, Shame and Stigma in Mental Health.

Imagine: Dear students, here are 7 tips to rock your exams
Thu, Feb 06, 2020

Despite all the fuss made about exams, remember they do not define you or the rest of your life.

Imagine: Is society’s idea of success harming our children?
Fri, Jan 24, 2020

The idea of success is hugely problematic when from an early age, we are recruiting our children into believing that there is one right way to live their life.

Imagine: Let’s smash the myth of work-life balance for working mothers
Fri, Jan 10, 2020

No man is ever asked how he manages to keep the work-life balance; it is an expectation from women only.

Watch out for the ‘study abroad’ industry that is luring our kids
Sat, Dec 28, 2019

When we do something because everybody else is doing it, then it is problematic. It is like getting on a treadmill which is not going to get us anywhere

Imagine: Watch out for the ‘study abroad’ industry that is luring our kids
Fri, Dec 27, 2019

When we do something because everybody else is doing it then it is problematic. It is like getting into a treadmill which is not going to get us anywhere.

Imagine: Children will lie. It’s not a flaw but a necessary milestone
Sat, Dec 14, 2019

Lying is a pretty smart and sophisticated protective strategy children adopt when faced with oppressive and so-called “disciplinary” practices.

Imagine: Less is more — escaping the grip of ‘affluenza’
Fri, Nov 29, 2019

We are trying to buy our way out of misery, but paradoxically, getting more stuck than ever. I am sure you will remember your childhood when old sofas were refurbished, furniture repaired, clothes passed on from older to younger and everything used until it was threadbare and turned into dusters.

Imagine: Raising girls — misogyny shows up when we’re least aware
Sat, Nov 16, 2019

Let’s start by becoming more mindful of our language. Just observe the words we use to praise little girls — “gentle”, “nice”, “sweet” and the ubiquitous “good girl”; and for boys — “strong”, “tough”, “brave”.

Imagine: Parents, create boundaries without any double standards
Mon, Nov 04, 2019

It is only when they feel valued, loved and safe in a relationship that children can even be open to coaching. A red light is for behaviours that need a zero-tolerance, non-negotiable approach. The yellow light could be for habits the child is still learning to master.

Imagine: Parenting and the art of selective watering — even shy dreamers can sparkle
Sat, Oct 19, 2019

There are many children who are shy, scattered, disorganised, dreamers, clumsy and noisy. They might still have huge reservoirs of creativity, talent, ability, generosity, etc, but all that is lost behind cobwebs of mis-wiring that keep them from connecting and showing their sparkle.

Imagine: It takes a child to raise a village
Fri, Oct 04, 2019

Our decades on this planet, mountains of learning and self-aggrandising posing has just made our world so much more toxic, so borrowing the young woman’s words, “How dare you?”

Imagine: How to savour life in overwhelming times
Sat, Sep 21, 2019

It’s not about how much you do, but what you do, and less can be more. More than enough.

Imagine: It takes courage to be a teacher
Sat, Sep 07, 2019

All that talk and the buzz we hear about classroom management, teaching strategies, inclusion all amount to nothing if the teacher is not able to love each and every child in the class and make sure they know it.

Imagine: Forget IQ and EQ, it is all about PQ or playfulness quotient
Sat, Aug 24, 2019

We are going round and round in the journey of our life missing what matters the most – playfulness. Start by keeping 10 minutes a day for a nourishing PQ diet. All you have to do is to roll up your sleeves, loosen that tie and let your hair down.

Imagine: Speak up! We are done with the silence around mom-shaming
Sat, Aug 10, 2019

No matter what society tells you, it is not your fault, so look the shame in the eye and walk away. The saddest part is that it is women who end up policing each other. A mother shared with me, “My school mothers’ WhatsApp group is giving me sleepless nights."

Imagine: It’s our society that is broken, not our kids
Sat, Jul 27, 2019

What we see as depression, anxiety, addiction and the growing mental health problem is a sign of a society that is sick. Unfortunately, our children are paying the price for it.

Imagine: Busting the myth of laziness — ‘Kids will do well if they can’
Sat, Jul 13, 2019

Laziness is not an innate trait, so let’s stop shaming our children about it. They will grow and flourish at their own pace which cannot be dictated by us.

Busting the myth of laziness
Sat, Jul 13, 2019

Let’s stop shaming our children about being lazy. They will grow and flourish at their own pace which cannot be dictated by us.

Imagine: Dear Young Readers, are you ready to opt out of a digitally drugged culture?
Sat, Jun 29, 2019

The scary thing is that we have accepted this digital clutter so much in our minds and our lives that it has become normal to see people preferring to be on their phones than talk to the person next to them.

Imagine: Why parents need meditation or the art of stillness, in a chaotic life
Mon, Jun 17, 2019

If there is a niggling voice saying to you right now, "All this is rubbish! I can barely go through the day and she is asking me to become a Buddha", listen to that voice, smile and then let it go.