Shelja Sen

Shelja Sen is co-founder of Children First, a child and adolescent mental heath institute, and author of Imagine: No Child Left Invisible; All You Need is Love: The Art of Mindful Parenting; Reclaim Your Life: Going Beyond Silence, Shame and Stigma in Mental Health.

Articles By Shelja Sen

Imagine: Woo your teen back! Who said they need so much of space?

In the absence of their parents’ attentive involvement, our children are more vulnerable to seeking approval from their peers which can come at the cost of high-risk behaviour for acceptance.

IMAGINE: Woo your teen back

Who said they need all that space?

Imagine: It is grit that matters more than your child’s grades

It is the growth mindset and grit that will determine children’s success in life. From us, they learn that adversity is an invitation to rise above and not give up. They also learn that life is not a sprint, but a marathon.

A letter to students: 7 ways to hack exam stress and get ROCKING!

The best procrastination buster is to break the task into brick by brick or what I call the ‘15-minute rule’. It will cut down the inertia and possibly make it easier for you to come back to it next time.

Imagine: Let’s stand up for our children, build emotionally safe spaces

We need a hashtag campaign on the lines of #speakupforourchildren. And all of us need to be part of it. As the clichéd but powerful phrase goes, “If not now, then when? If not you, then who?”

Imagine: Exam time and a pressure-cooked generation

Education which is not embedded in life is meaningless. It is high time we let go of this outdated belief that one exam will determine the rest of their lives. This is a huge burden for young shoulders to carry.

Imagine: The last thing your child needs is disciplining

There is a lot of moaning and groaning, leading to shouting and possibly the child being forcibly made to sit down. In the end, there is an unhappy child who associates homework with punishment and a guilty parent who feels helpless and inadequate. If this is discipline, then every home is better without it.

Imagine: The myth of the badly behaved child

We all have a deep desire for perfect kids as that would, in turn, make us feel good about ourselves. When they do not fall into the socially prescribed narrative of ‘good kids’, we try to 'fix them' by criticising, complaining, shaming and blaming them. And when they push back in frustration, we react with anger and censure.

What after #MeToo? Let’s listen to heal

Schools and colleges cannot wash their hands of the perpetrators by shaming and handing out injunctions

Are our boys ready for #WeToo?

#MeToo has provided a great opportunity for all of us to start conversations with our children.