UPSC coach Vikas Divyakriti reveals one habit that transforms life; reflects on self-esteem, modern relationships: ‘Marriage is the biggest decision of life’

Dr Divyakriti emphasised that success also depends on the field in which a person works. For instance, he said, “If you’re in the film industry, you can be successful just by fluke; however, it doesn’t work for one aspiring to become an IAS. Fluke doesn’t work in this case.”

The educator also discussed issues related to self-esteem, noting that many individuals hesitate to ask for help because of an unconscious fear of “what will I owe in return?”

He added that the inability to say “no” becomes a lifelong emotional burden for some. Addressing his own experiences with public scrutiny, Dr Divyakirti noted that public figures often face criticism.

He further delved into evolutionary psychology, relationships, and loneliness. Dr Divyakirti explained that partner selection is heavily influenced by evolutionary tendencies rather than logic. He suggested that many relationships operate on a cost-benefit basis and predicted that marriage rates may decline in the future.

“Marriage is the biggest decision of life,” adding that “Gen Z, Gen Alpha don’t want to get married. As time progresses, this tendency of not getting married will increase.”

Dr Divyakirti further highlighted how contemporary emotional needs often clash with biological instincts and societal expectations, leaving many individuals caught between contradictory demands. “It is said that after great successes and before success, relationship breaks. However, people who are neither extremely successful nor unsuccessful focus on their relationships because they cannot afford loneliness,” Dr Divyakirti said.