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This rant on being a ‘traditional Indian girl’ is a must read for every lost soul

"Some of you might say 'move out, be financially independent and f*** em' Not easy."

By: Express Web Desk |
Updated: June 2, 2016 9:03:14 pm
Picture used for representational purpose Picture used for representational purpose

Often, we want to take a decision for ourselves, stand for our rights, embrace our choices but something stops us. That’s no one but our parents, elders or guardians who, knowingly or unknowingly, out of ‘love’, ‘protection’ and ‘societal pressure’ tend to bound us.

An unnamed 26-year-old woman posted a message on Reddit that has gone viral wherein she narrates how being a ‘traditional’ Indian girl has curbed her freedom to live her life the way she wants. She narrates a life, parts of which, has been lived by most girls in the country. The experiences differ from urban, semi-urban and rural set-up but the way any society functions remains the same.

“I had to do “girl” things only. Be more shy, be more religious, don’t be loud, don’t be a rebel, don’t go out in the sun or get dark, don’t go out at night, don’t wear that, don’t drink this, don’t question so much, don’t use your phone so much, and basically don’t do the things the boys in the family still get away with doing. And god forbid you date. The restrictions are ridiculous but most of my friends face them too so it’s not just my backward family,” she writes.

The girl rightly points out how sometimes elders tend to emotionally influence our decisions and how helpless one feels in the situation despite being headstrong.

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“When a guy asks me out, I would turn him down instantly (even if i was interested), just because I didn’t want to disappoint my parents. I feel like an idiot, a spineless coward for not taking those chances. I have zero relationship experience and I’m 26! I blame my parents as much as I do myself and this stupid society we live in,” she writes.

She goes on to tell how even financial independence does not help attain absolute freedom.

“Some of you might say “move out, be financially independent and f*** em.” Not easy. I’m not even living with them right now and I make money, but I’m kind of emotionally stunted, not prepared. I just can’t bring myself to betray their twisted ideals about my responsibilities.”

The woman apologises for generalizing because not every girl goes through what she is facing but “we exist by the millions,” she says.

The post resonates with many who have appreciated her to voice something that many girls who are caught up between tradition and modern world witness.

Read her full post here.

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