Marriage is a spectacular affair in India, but it is still held by the thread of some old-fashioned customs that still persist in the society. And if you are a girl, then it is all the more difficult to set the groundwork to be the perfect bride. From being judged on looks and cooking skills to being restricted under strict rules, it is a tough road for most women. And, if you do not live up to the expectations or behave in a certain manner, you may easily be tagged as “not marriage material”. Breaking the taboo, women came out with hard-hitting questions on Twitter, and asked how a different interest or a diverse way of life could bar them from being a good partner.
The hashtag #NotShaadiMaterial has been trending ever since, and many women have taken to the micro-blogging site to shed light to bold issues with their tweets. While one user wrote, “Just because a girl has more guy friends than just girl- friends!! Does that make her #NotShaadiMaterial,” another one asked, “If my age is 35 then, am I #NotShaadiMaterial?”
Check out some reactions here.
— Sangeeta Agrawal (@sangeetaagrawa2) November 13, 2017
Just because a girl has more guy friends than just girl- friends!! Does that make her#NotShaadiMaterial !!
— padmavati Rashogulla💝 (@TheShwetasingh) November 13, 2017
Im a Doctor with busy profession . Does that make me #NotShaadiMaterial ?
— Dr Jwala Gurunath (@DrJwalaG) November 13, 2017
— TheRichaChadha (@RichaChadha) November 13, 2017
I am an independent woman n dont require a male to support me. I hope am not considered as #NotShaadiMaterial
— PRIYANKA (@priyanka_dear) November 13, 2017
— Bani J⚡️ (@bani_j) November 13, 2017
If my age is 35 then, am I #NotShaadiMaterial?
— Premabati Konthoujam (@PremabatiK) November 13, 2017
I will not be dictated by what society wants from me. I live by my own rules#NotShaadiMaterial
— Pooja (@Pooja__G) November 13, 2017
— Nilu Yuleena Thapa (@NiluYuleenaBHLM) November 13, 2017
While the hashtag began with a women-centric approach, men joined in and asked why their pay package and height defines the ‘marriage material’ notion. Read some tweets here.
Does “My life. My rules.” mean I am #NotShaadiMaterial?
— Ashish Masih (@AdoreJBandGomez) November 13, 2017
I don’t earn in 7 digits, Am I #NotShaadiMaterial too?
— Ajeet Panigrahi (@AjeetPanigrahi) November 13, 2017
I don’t own a house nor do I have a big fat salary, am I #NotShaadiMaterial
— Amit H (@Amit_jh) November 13, 2017
I did not Inherite any property , nor do I earn in lakhs per month, nor I am tall dark or handsome #NotShaadiMaterial
The point is there are more serious expectations kept from the boys as well
— SJW-Nightmare (@poo89491323) November 13, 2017
What actually happens to be a union of two individuals has been created into a stressful affair for both men and women. These reactions above clearly highlight the common issues that they face. Do you agree? Tell us in the comments below.
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