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Indian man reveals his father takes away his entire salary, opens up about financial control: ‘This is abuse’

The man alleged that his father takes away his entire salary and doesn't even give him a monthly allowance.

3 min readNew DelhiDec 2, 2025 09:36 AM IST

The man expressed that he is left with no financial independence (Representative image/Unsplash)

Driven by a sense of responsibility and cultural expectations, many Indian parents continue to put restrictions on their children even during adulthood. This often hinders children’s personal growth and freedom. A 26-year-old man recently opened up about his tumultuous relationship with his father, leaving him to struggle for financial independence.

In a post on the Reddit community, r/kolkata, the man alleged that his father takes away his entire salary and doesn’t even give him a monthly allowance. “I’m an adult (26M), working and earning (30k) each month, but I’m facing a dilemma at home. My father takes my entire salary as soon as I receive it. He doesn’t give me any monthly allowance or spending money at all. The only time I get money is when I’m going somewhere specific, and even then he questions me about every small detail of how I spent it,” he wrote.

He further expressed that he is left with no financial independence. “I understand contributing to the household is necessary and I want to help, but I also want to have some control over my own earnings and savings,” he added.

The man also shared that he is often hesitant to talk about it to his father, as it might lead to arguments. “I’m not sure how to talk to him about this without causing arguments or being seen as disrespectful. I’m torn between wanting to maintain peace at home and wanting basic autonomy over my own finances,” he concluded.

See the viral post here:

Struggling with financial control from my father
byu/CandleComfortable635 inkolkata

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The post quickly drew attention, with several users chiming in. “Stop giving money. Maintain radio silence. There will be a storm for a while, and then things will smooth over. But after that, this toxic practice will end,” a user advised.

“Hand over only 15K. Rest is yours. If he asks. Say I have expenses and courses and side quest. If he says How dare you. Remember you are a whole adult and you can move out without a quarrel,” another user suggested.

“This is abuse. You are a 26 year old in an abusive situation. Please don’t get married till you live independently,” a third user reacted.