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Dating app has a fitting reply to abusive, bully male user on how to speak to women

A dating app - keeping in mind the safety and respect of its female users - penned an open letter to a user for his bullying behaviour.

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This dating app is all for gender equality and Beyonce-endorsed ‘feminist cancer’. (Source: Blog.bumble.com)

Women are not safe from creeps, abusers prejudices any where – be it an online or an offline space. A host of new women-centric dating apps have sprung up, ensuring the safety of their female users.

One such app, Bumble – created by Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe, who also sued Tinder CMO for alleged sexual harassment – made a bold move to address disrespect of its female users and publicly shamed a male user for doing so.

To give a backgrounder, the following exchange took place between Ashley (in yellow) and Conner, both users of the dating app:

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(Source: Blog.bumble.com)
Bumble, Tinder, dating apps, dating apps experience, abuse on dating apps, bullying on dating apps, feminism, gender equality, Beyonce
(Source: Blog.bumble.com)
Bumble, Tinder, dating apps, dating apps experience, abuse on dating apps, bullying on dating apps, feminism, gender equality, Beyonce
(Source: Blog.bumble.com)

Conner’s unreasonable and rude response to Ashley was brought to the notice of the app makers, who took it upon themselves to  respond to Conner by taking a public stand and issuing an open letter. The letter does a fabulous job of establishing grounds of gender equality, especially in the transitioning times of today when more and more women are empowered and don’t seek male partners for dependence.

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The owners tweeted out the letter on their blog with the message: “We have a zero tolerance policy for bullying on Bumble. Read our open letter here”.

 

Here’s what the letter says:

Dear Connor,

It has been brought to our attention that you lost your cool on one of our female users named Ashley. She made small talk, you felt personally attacked. She mentioned her work day and asked about yours; you assumed that she was prying into your financial status.

We are going to venture a guess into the state of mind of Ashley here, given that we are all working women ourselves. Take a seat, because this concept may blow your mind. Women nowadays work. It’s happened over time, we know, but a vast majority of women from our generation have jobs.

With that in mind — and knowing that Ashley simply mentioned work in the conversation — we can gather that she wasn’t hoping to figure out if your wallet was sizeable enough for her to move into your house and start cooking dinner for you after vacuuming your living room while you clock in a 9 to 5 work day. Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal. It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know… the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working.

And while you may view this as “neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer,” and rant about the personal wounds you are trying to heal from classic “entitled gold digging whores,” we are going to keep working. We are going to expand our reach and make sure that women everywhere receive the message that they are just as empowered in their personal lives as they are in the workplace. We are going to continue to build a world that makes small-minded, misogynist boys like you feel outdated.

We are going to hope that one day, you come around. We hope that the hate and resentment welling up inside of you will subside and you’ll be able to engage in everyday conversations with women without being cowardice to their power. But until that day comes, Connor, consider yourself blocked from Bumble.

Never yours,

The Bumble Hive

#ImWithAshley

#LaterConnor