It is not ‘attitude problem’ that drives young people to suicide

We feel a strong sense of shared responsibility in the wake of these terrible tragedies. Rather than a single culprit, it seems that a complex web of factors is driving our children toward despair. Some blame the relentless, distorted mirrors of social media, a world that constantly seeks approval and demands perfection but only offers loneliness, jealousy, and comparison. Others point to the fast speed of consumerism and competition, a system that judges a young life based on grades, ranks, and external accomplishments rather than inherent value. Many blame the intense expectations of parents, whose ambitions often overshadow a child’s needs. Such tragedies may seem almost inevitable under the changing lifestyles and environments that contribute to rising depression.

Our society is growing increasingly transactional and heartless: In coaching centres that see children as test-takers rather than human beings, in schools where compassion is subordinate to performance, and in homes where pressure is confused with love. In a society that ignores vulnerability and silent suffering, even the most resilient child can make mistakes.

Experts emphasise that a single incident rarely causes suicidality in children. It stems from long-term distress. Rarely do children express this pain directly; instead, it manifests itself through behavioural changes, mood swings, withdrawal, or subtle cues. Experts emphasise how vulnerability is increased by high parental expectations, growing academic competition, and cyberbullying. However, a common misconception among adults is that children are too young to go through serious emotional pain. Unfortunately, their struggles are often misread as misbehaviour or attitude problems, delaying support and increasing risk. Recognising these signs early and responding with understanding is essential to preventing such tragedies.

A senior psychology professor from Delhi University notes that intense negative emotions can overwhelm individuals to the point where coping feels impossible, making death appear as an escape. This pattern is seen across groups, from distressed farmers to pressured students or frontline workers, who often feel controlled by larger political, social, and economic forces, creating deep alienation and meaninglessness. Suicidal behaviour may also follow what others in similar situations do, reinforcing the idea of death as relief. Suicide ultimately represents a conflict between structural pressures and individual struggles.

It is time to reflect on our collective role in nurturing young minds. Children must not be exposed to violence, intolerance, or discrimination of any kind. Teachers need to lead with empathy, parents must listen and support without conditions, and society should ensure every child feels seen and included. The government, too, must prioritise children’s emotional well-being over political interests. If we ignore their inner struggles, any child, regardless of background, can be drawn into despair. True care requires shifting our focus from marks and achievements to emotional health, human dignity, and the protection of every child’s right to happiness.

The writer teaches at Dr B R Ambedkar College, University of Delhi