#MeToo has become a strong movement in India. It is courageous on the part of those large number of women who are coming out in the open with their stories of workplace harassment and unwanted sexual overtures from male colleagues. In a predominantly conservative setting like that of our society, these acts are no mean feats. If not for any other reason, these women need the support of society at large because they have mustered the courage to speak up.
Workplace harassment is not just a frivolous crime — it is a violent crime. Violence need not always be physical. It can be mental. It can be emotional. Through words and deeds, a person has the potential to outrage the feelings and emotions of another. This is much easier and more hurtful in the context of sexual harassment and intimidation.
In fact, this is the elephant in the workplace almost everywhere in India. We didn’t speak about it much, didn’t do enough to arrest it, didn’t try to act against the perpetrators in a big way. Social mores, stigma and familial sensibilities have thus far led the victims to silently suffer violations without raising their voices too much. But that doesn’t mean it is a small or a non-issue. At last, now when women have started speaking up, we realise that it is not just a minor issue, but a monster.
We must not forget that for every story told by women, there are dozens of stories untold. Maybe those stories that find space in the media belong mostly to visible professions like the media and film industry, but the victims are everywhere, from villages to rich urban households. It is the fear of societal reaction and stigma that forces them to suffer silently or in extreme cases, to end their lives. If the society stands up with those who raise their voices, slowly but definitely, the menace will end and reform will set in.
There could be some who will probably try to misuse the situation for their own ends. But that shouldn’t be an argument to rubbish each and every voice, raised feebly and desperately. This happens with every major reformist uprising. There could be instances of people misusing many other laws as well. But that can’t be an argument against the law itself. If anything, we must further strengthen the laws. Similarly with #MeToo, while those accused of wrongdoing may have a right to defend themselves, one or two unfounded cases can’t be held against the entire movement for the dignity, freedom and safety of women.
One is not unaware of the dangers of naming and shaming by the women involved in doing so. But once an allegation is made, the immediate consequence is that of loss of reputation of the man concerned. Nobody rules out the possibility of some innocents being subjected to such innuendo and insinuation. These are the hazards that any reform entails. We must guard against them, but shouldn’t use them to stall the reform itself.
Already, the #MeToo movement has achieved one significant result — the hope that workplaces will now be safer for women. There is a hope that men will think twice before indulging in obscenities with their colleagues. In the process, if some women who took up cudgels against their perpetrators had to endure infamy, ridicule or even court cases, let them consider it as their sacrifice in the larger cause of protecting dignity and honour of our women folk.
Beyond the movement, the larger question is that of our attitude towards women. Our society oscillates between two extremes. On the one hand, it is looking at women as mere objects; while the other extreme is to subject them to countless restrictions in the name of women’s protection. While objectifying women is wrong, equally abominable is the attempt, in the name of women’s safety, to confine them to the four walls of the home. Equality and independence should be the twin mantras in our treatment of women.
Safety of women should be an important article of faith with any government. To that end, we need stricter laws that ensure that those found guilty of workplace harassment are punished. The Vishakha judgment guidelines do provide many safeguards, like having an “appropriate complaints mechanism with a complaints committee” at all
But what women need is not just security, but dignity. Dignity can be accorded by society, not by laws. And with dignity comes equal opportunity and independence of thought and action. It is unfortunate that some sections of our society still live with the regressive mindset that freedom and equality are tantamount to promiscuity. It is among these sections that women are subjected to undignified lives.
Statements like “every man must respect women, but every woman must deserve it” are lousy and smack of a superiority complex in men. “Love and respect a woman. Look to her not only for comfort, but for strength and inspiration and the doubling of your intellectual and moral powers. Blot out from your mind any idea of superiority; you have none,” said eminent Italian leader and poet Giuseppe Mazzini.
It calls for a lot of courage to stand by those women who open up when a deafening silence overawes you. Three Union ministers — Menaka Gandhi, Smriti Irani and Nirmala Sitharaman — deserve compliments for breaking that silence and raising their voice in support of the women who spoke out. “Women go to work to live their dreams and earn a respectable living. More and more women are winning support. I feel there are enough instruments to deliver justice. Hope these women get justice,” Irani said.
Let that hope, not mere empathy for the victims, nor anger against the accused who must have a fair chance to respond and defend themselves, guide us in creating a better India where our women will have more opportunity and freedom.