Men and women still have a string of complaints about each other till today,a new survey has revealed.
The survey was conducted on 2,000 people by laundry firm Dr Beckmann.
Our research shows the veneer of metrosexuality and new man is wearing very thin and that men are as annoying as ever, the Daily Express quoted Susan Fermor,a spokesman for the firm,as saying.
Women are no angels either. We may be in the 21st century but we still annoy the opposite sex in exactly the same way we have been doing for millennia, she said.
The top most habit that men find annoying is women saying Im fine when theyre clearly not.
More than 40 per cent of the men pinpointed this trait as the one that most drives them up the wall.
Women find it difficult to be straight about their feelings,leading to this type of passive aggressive behaviour, psychologist Corinne Sweet said.
Its because theyre worried about what will happen if they actually say whats wrong or that theyll be accused of constantly nagging. Women also want their other halves to be mind readers. They think,If he really knew me,hed know X and Y. This leads to hurt and disappointment because you think your spouse doesnt understand you.
Women should learn to be more direct, she said.
Another reason is that women talk too much.
In the 80s,the book Man Made Language by Dale Spender used scientific research to dispel the myth that women talk more than men.
Its just that men think women talk more. Thats because there is a mismatch in what the sexes talk about, Sweet said.
According to Sweet,men want to talk about particular subjects like football and work while women want to talk about relationships and emotions.
Its the minutiae of all that which men find excruciating. Theyre not interested. Theyre more goal-orientated. Id suggest women talk to their friends at length and fulfil their needs that way then just give men the briefer version, she said.
The third most annoying habit of women is that they constantly ask what men are thinking.
This is partly a low self-esteem issue. As a counselor and therapist I find so many women still measure themselves by what their other half thinks of them and so they try to prise from them their innermost thoughts. It also comes back to the different way men and women communicate., Sweet said.
Men arent as emotionally articulate. They may feel theyve given you plenty of information and you might feel youve only scratched the surface. Id suggest women should stop worrying so much about what men think, she said.
Another reason is that women win arguments by crying,which according to Sweet,have two sides to this.
If youre hurt and need comfort then crying is perfectly legitimate.However some women do cry manipulatively and turn on the water works every time they cant get their way. To those women Id say their behaviour is rather childlike and its better to find another way of settling the argument.
A lot of men are emotionally bottled up and feel threatened by shows of emotion. They could probably do with a cry themselves, she said.
The last among the top five list is that women never say sorry even when they are wrong.
Its difficult for women to say sorry because women tend to think theyre the centre of the universe and men need to shape up. Its partly because women are still the centre of the home theyre the hub and if theyre a working mum theyre trying to do everything. They tend to feel that as a result they have this divine right to be right, Sweet said.
As men could get annoyed by womens habit,women too are offended by mens behaviour.
The top most habit that women find annoying in men is that they dont listen properly.
More than a third of women claimed that this was their partners worst habit,but its not totally their fault.
Its partly to do with how the different sexes brains work. Women can multi-task whereas men can only do one thing at a time., Sweet said.
Women tell men things but theyre not really listening because theyre preoccupied – theyre either doing something else or thinking about something else and they cant listen as well. For women its infuriating.
Id say women should try to get their other halves to put down their newspaper or iPhone and give them their full attention just for 10 minutes. Men have this horror that a conversation is going to go on and on. They like a time limit, she said.
Second in the list is that men dont put the toilet seat down. Thirdly,men leave toe-nail clippings and beard shavings where ever they fall.
This often goes back to what mens mothers let them get away with when they were younger. What you have to do is not get into the mother role because thats the kiss of death in a relationship. Talk to them adult to adult and explain why you hate it, she said.
Another reason is that men have friends that their other half dont like. Sweet believes that if women dont like their husbands or their boyfriends friends,then its too bad. The one that rounds up the list of annoying habit of mens is that they hog the TV remote control.
Men think its their prerogative to have the TV remote because they like control but women should have as much control as men.You need equal access. Tell him what hes doing but dont be aggressive about it or youll end up in a fight, she added.