June 17, 2011 5:43:12 pm
It’s now official. Men are the first to say ‘I love you’ in a relationship,while women loath to trust those who bring up the subject too early,a new study has found.
The Massachusetts Institute of Technology study found that over 60 per cent men profess their love early in a relationship,but women actually prefer it when males wait to get serious.
It was earlier believed that women were the first to broach the topic.
But,when the researchers quizzed a large number of people about their past and present relationships,it revealed the opposite to be true — with the man saying the phrase first 61.5 per cent of the time,the Daily Mail reported.
The researchers also found that men began thinking about professing their love 97.3 days into a relationship,six weeks earlier than women.
Other experiments revealed that time is the key men are happiest to hear the three words early in a relationship.
But not because they are soppy sorts. Instead,they see the declaration as a sign a woman wants to go to bed with them. Said later on,they may fear commitment and head for the hills,the researchers found.
Women,however,are loath to trust men who bring up the subject too early,perhaps as they have more to lose from .
But said after they are in a sexual relationship,it brings with it the promise of commitment and a potential father to any child,the researchers said.
Detailing their findings in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,the researchers wrote: “If we were to rely on the traditional stereotype that men are from Mars and women are from Venus,we would expect that this act typically falls on the shoulders of women. ”
“Indeed,people’s beliefs about the association between women and love support this idea. Yet these beliefs may not reflect the romantic reality,” they said.
“When examining what actually happened in their past and current relationships,it was men who were more likely to confess love first.
“This was not simply a function of women waiting for their partners to make the first move,men first considered expressing their feelings six weeks before women did.
“One important reason men may confess love earlier than women do is because men have a stronger desire to motivate early sexual activity in relationships.”
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