The whispered suggestion from ‘mem sahab’ Meena Kumari that left Rajendra Kumar grateful forever

He also encapsulated the first day of his shoot with her. “I requested that she guide me since I am new. She told me that you do a good job. Why do you say that? I said it is always a pleasure to learn from her. She used to help a lot. If the shot didn’t go well, she used to whisper that one more shot could be done. Those things can never be forgotten,” shared Kumar.

How does it help when artistes support each other by discreetly sharing criticism?

Correcting mistakes discreetly is crucial for learning and growth without compromising an individual’s respect and dignity.

Meena Kumari (Photo: Express Archives)

“Such an approach makes an individual receive constructive feedback with openness and willingness to improve. This also develops good interpersonal bonds and mutual respect and fosters a nurturing environment,” said Subhash HJ, counsellor and mental health educator, Vasavi Hospitals, Bengaluru.

You feel good, you stay motivated to improve. “You also see a positive social connection and trust the other person about their intent to make you better. That’s exactly why Rajendra Kumar expresses respect and a strong bond with Meena Kumari,” shared Subhash.

On the contrary, harsh public criticism can hinder learning and self-esteem, trigger shame and anxiety.

“Sometimes it can activate a stress response, making the person defensive than receptive to learning. Understanding this contrast will make one mindful of their way of giving feedback. If the only goal is to improve someone, giving feedback privately in kind words is the key,” said Subhash.