When Hema Malini spoke about her first impression of Dharmendra: ‘Never thought he was going to be my man’; psychotherapist decodes actor’s approach

They eventually got married in 1980, even as Dharmendra was married to his first wife, Prakash Kaur, with whom he had four children. Later, Hema and Dharmendra had two daughters, Esha and Ahana Deol.

Taking a leaf out of the actor’s candid confession, let’s understand the difference between wanting love and being ready for it.

Most people chase love from a place of longing; they desire connection, but often from a place of emotional emptiness. That kind of seeking carries the vibration of need, and need repels the very thing we crave. What Hema described was the opposite, said Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach.

“She admired, appreciated, and imagined. But she didn’t chase. She was open, not desperate. That openness creates an energetic readiness where the universe can align two souls without force. In energy psychology, this is called receptive magnetism. Feminine energy doesn’t run behind; it radiates. It doesn’t demand; it attracts. When you are in balance, i.e. confident in who you are, grounded in your worth, the right connection naturally finds you,” expressed Delnna.

Hema Malini and Dharmendra were a hit pair (Photo: Express Archives)

The deeper layer of admiration

Psychologically, relationships that begin without pressure tend to last longer because they are rooted in ease rather than urgency. “When connection unfolds naturally, both individuals meet from their authentic energy, not their fear of being alone, not from projection, not from trying to impress. In that simplicity lies emotional safety. And emotional safety is the foundation of long-term love,” shared Delnna.

The healing takeaway

*Admiration is energy. Let it inspire, not consume.
*Openness is power. You attract what your frequency matches.
*Confidence in your worth creates magnetic chemistry without pursuit.
*Let life introduce you to the right people at the right time.

Love doesn’t always arrive when you plan it. Sometimes, it walks in quietly, just as you stop trying to control it. And that is the most beautiful kind of miracle, said Delnna.