Amrita Rao once told Ranveer Allahbadia to ‘cut the clutter’, advised ‘simplicity’ in marriage: ‘Such a sheer waste…for what’

Are we having sustainable weddings? (Photo: AI Generated)

Calling it a “psychological observation”, Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach, said that weddings in India have gradually transformed from intimate rites of passage into large-scale public productions. “Designer outfits, multi-day events, competitive budgets, curated aesthetics for social media. The shift is subtle but powerful. The wedding is deeply personal. The performance around it is increasingly public. And wherever something becomes public, comparison quietly enters,” shared Delnna.

Clutter is not just excess décor or heavy jewellery. “It is mental noise. It is the constant whisper of what will people say, will this look impressive enough, will relatives judge, will this trend online,” said Delnna.

There is also a silent pressure on families, especially fathers, to prove love through scale. “Spending becomes symbolic of status and honour. Yet privately, many admit to regret. Not because they do not love their children, but because they realise the cost did not increase the depth of happiness. The deeper question is uncomfortable but necessary. Are we celebrating a union or performing success? Simplicity does not mean minimal effort. It means intentional effort,” expressed Delnna.

Cutting clutter in weddings is not about denying joy. “It is about protecting it. When excess reduces, attention sharpens. You notice the trembling hands. You notice your partner’s eyes. You notice your parents holding back tears. Those are the memories that anchor marriages.”

When couples consciously choose simplicity, they reclaim the centre of the event. “They begin their marriage anchored in meaning rather than measurement. Because when the lights dim and the guests leave, what remains is not the gown’s price. What remains is the relationship,” Delnna reflected.