Raveena Tandon’s ‘I punched him back’ moment: The psychology of fighting back—and feeling shaken later

Reflecting on the incident, counselling psychologist Srishti Vatsa, who has worked with women navigating the aftermath of such experiences, says what makes stories like Raveena’s important isn’t just the bravery but also the vulnerability that follows.

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“Women often feel a mix of anger and shame… because their space and dignity were violated,” she explains. “So many questions come up—Was it what I wore? Did I do something wrong?”

Even when the response is fierce and fearless, it doesn’t always feel like closure. Vatsa adds: “Even those who respond bravely, as Raveena did, often carry the moment long after it’s over. Some feel proud. Others feel shaken—or even guilty.”

Raveena continued: “I guess self-defence just comes in as a reflex… very instantly. And I had to do that.” (Express Archive Photo)

The emotional cost of confrontation

There’s often a gap between what happens publicly—cheers, praise, awe—and what happens inside a person. Vatsa shares that many of her clients have said things like:

• “I slapped him, but then I felt scared about what could’ve happened next,”
• “I shouted at him, but later felt like I caused a scene,”
• “I kept thinking I should’ve just walked away.”

This isn’t weakness—it’s the weight of what it means to defend yourself in a world that still, somehow, makes women question their safety and their reaction to its violation.

Strength looks different for everyone

For some, like Raveena, it’s a punch; for others, it’s walking away safely, says the expert, adding: “Neither is more valid. What matters is that women are often left to carry not just the event but also its emotional processing—sometimes silently.”

“There’s adrenaline,” says Vatsa, “but also fear, self-doubt, and sometimes guilt. Some women are proud that they stood up for themselves. The confrontation shakes others. A lot depends on whether they felt supported—or alone.”

Even if a woman defends herself with courage, she deserves space to feel everything that comes after: relief, rage, fear, pride, or even confusion. “Because being brave doesn’t mean being unaffected. And healing starts by acknowledging both, he punch and the trembling that might follow,” Vatsa concludes.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to.