‘Bahaar nikal raha hai pet’: Tina Ahuja on how father Govinda was particular about her weight; ways to approach topic with children

“I used to discuss it with him, saying, ‘Papa, I don’t know what has happened to me. I’ve put on so much weight I just can’t walk also. It was him who was like start with one baby step at a time. Slowly getting there but I love my body. Aisa nahi hai ki main khaati nahi hu… main sab khaati hu. I feel very good when I fit into good clothes,” Ahuja said. 

 

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While she credits these remarks for helping her stay conscious about her health, it raises an important question about the fine line between motivating someone and potentially causing harm with such comments.

How to approach this topic in a positive way

Dr Arohi Vardhan, consultant adult and child and adolescent psychiatrist at Cadabams Mindtalk, tells indianexpress.com, “Parents should emphasise the health benefits of fitness and balanced nutrition rather than appearance. For instance, discussions can center on feeling energetic, improving strength, or preventing illnesses rather than ‘looking slim.’”

Children often mirror their parents’ habits, she adds. Children are more likely to adopt these practices if parents lead active lifestyles and eat balanced meals. “Engage in family activities like hiking, yoga, or cooking healthy meals together to make health enjoyable.”

Avoid labelling foods as “good” or “bad”; instead, explain their nutritional value. “A study in Journal of Adolescent Health highlights that parental encouragement when framed positively, improves children’s health behaviours without lowering self-esteem. Avoid using language that implies judgment,” she asserts. 

Set goals that include improving energy levels, sleeping better, or reducing stress through activities like yoga or meditation. (Source: Freepik)

Strategies to develop a positive body image

Dr Vardhan suggests the following:

• Adopt a Growth Mindset: Focus on progress over perfection. Celebrate small victories, such as improved stamina or choosing nutritious snacks, rather than fixating on numbers like weight.
• Practice Mindful Eating: Savor food, recognise hunger cues, and avoid emotional eating to promote a healthier relationship with food.
• Surround Yourself with Positivity: Follow social media accounts that promote body positivity and health rather than unrealistic ideals. Focus on your personal health goals, avoiding comparisons.
• Set Holistic Goals: Set goals that include improving energy levels, sleeping better, or reducing stress through activities like yoga or meditation.
• Engage in Regular Exercise: Regular strength training and cardio exercises can improve mood by releasing endorphins, as the Journal of Behavioral Medicine notes.
• Seek Professional Guidance: Consult a registered dietitian or fitness coach for a personalised plan tailored to your needs, reducing the risk of adopting harmful practices.