Can ‘panda parenting’ help your child become more independent?

Rima Bhandekar, Mpower Helpline, at Aditya Birla Education Trust, said that Panda parenting is a term taken from the parenting style of pandas in the wild take care of their cubs. “It focuses on providing children ample independence and distance to develop and at the same time support when required, and is very different from helicopter parenting where parents are around all the time. Panda parents let their children know that their assistance is available when wanted by the children,” she explained.

According to her, the aim of panda parenting is to encourage their children to explore on their own, and learn alongside, thus boosting their internal confidence naturally to solve issues and make independent decisions. “A panda parent may encourage their children to try new activities and face challenges without the parent promptly helping them. The central concept is to let children navigate their own understanding of their world and develop competencies, while parents are there to guide as necessary,” said Bhandekar.

Pros of Panda Parenting:

· Children start handling challenges themselves without expecting parents to scoop in for them.

· Their confidence develops gradually through trial-and-error learning, and they know they can succeed after initial failure.

· Children develop an understanding of various situations and how they feel in those, and how to face others with confidence.

· Children face less pressure from their parents to conform, and develop at their own pace

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Cons of Panda Parenting:

· Some children may not be able to cope with too much independence as it may leave them feeling disorganized or overpowered, or may not know when to call for help.

· Some children may need help with controlling their impulsive behaviour with clear-cut instructions, parental expectations and discipline, without which there could be issues in social or academic settings

“It is easier for stay-at-home parents to devote more time to oversee and guide children as per their individual needs. Working parents will need support and keep open pathways of communication with their children when parents are away at work, and involve children in the process of decision-making about small but important things when they are at home,” said Bhandekar.

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