‘Woh mere life ke facts leke apni khud ki kahani bana rahe the’: Sahiba Bali opens up about her stalker’s disturbing obsession
"But, what was very creepy is that the facts were right," she added
Actor Sahiba Bali revealed chilling details about the incident (Source: Instagram/Sahiba Bali) Actor Sahiba Bali recently shared her unnerving experience with a stalker who had become overly obsessed with her life, even fabricating stories using accurate details about her personal experiences.
In conversation with Hauterrfly, she revealed chilling details about the incident. “The person was overly obsessed with my life and woh mere life ke facts leke apni khud ki kahani bana rahe the (they were taking facts from my life and creating their own story out of it). But, what was very creepy is that the facts were right.”
The Amar Singh Chamkila actor added, “So, he had made multiple (online) usernames like Tripti Gawde, Aditya Gawde, etc., aur yeh mujhe har jagah dikh rahe the aur same story repeatedly (and I kept seeing them everywhere, with the same story being repeated over and over)… whether it’s slut shaming me or just pairing me with other people.”
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While her courage in speaking out highlights the importance of addressing such incidents, it also sheds light on how stalking behaviour can start subtly but escalate quickly, leaving the victim feeling unsafe and vulnerable. When left unchecked, it can lead to more intrusive and dangerous behaviour, significantly impacting the victim’s mental health and sense of security.
But what are the early signs to watch out for?
Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, The Answer Room, tells indianexpress.com, says, “Early stalking signs can be subtle, making them easy to overlook. It might start with frequent, seemingly random encounters that are too frequent to be coincidental or with consistent posting and commenting on your social media stories. A stalker may persistently seek your attention despite clear boundaries and gather personal information about you, your family, colleagues, and others in your life.”
Another warning sign is receiving unsolicited gifts and messages that increase in frequency over time, she adds. “While these behaviours may seem harmless initially, they tend to intensify and become more intrusive.”
How does stalking impact a person’s mental and emotional well-being over time?
Over a period of time stalking can make a person feel extremely anxious, hyper vigilant and always on the look out for the stalker, notes Khangarot. It could take away one’s sense of peace where they are constantly worried about being seen by the stalker. “Long term stalking can lead to depressive mood, social isolation, sometimes PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).”
Steps someone can take to ensure their safety when they suspect they are being stalked
According to Khangarot, one can take the following steps:
-Start by talking about it — share your concerns with someone you trust. If the situation begins to disrupt your everyday life, it’s a clear sign that you should involve the authorities and report it.
-If you suspect you are being stalked, prioritise your safety. Begin documenting all incidents, including dates, times, and detailed descriptions of each event. This documentation can be crucial for legal action later. Informing a trusted individual is also advised, as they can help you stay vigilant.
-Strengthen security measures at home by installing cameras, changing locks, and ensuring proper lighting. If the stalking continues, file a police report and seek a restraining order. Additionally, consider consulting firms specialising in stalking cases for further guidance and support.
Stalking could take away one’s sense of peace where they are constantly worried about being seen by the stalker. (Source: Freepik)
Coping mechanisms for victims of stalking
“Recovering from stalking involves building emotional support and implementing practical measures. Engage with a therapist who can help you process the trauma and develop effective coping mechanisms,” recommends Khangarot.
She mentions that reconnecting with a trusted social circle can also help restore a sense of normalcy and break the cycle of social isolation.
Mindfulness practices, she says, such as guided imagery and breathwork to reduce anxiety, along with physical activities like self-defense classes, can boost confidence and empower you to feel more in control of your safety.
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