Loss and gain is a part of life. The games that we play as children such as scrabble, monopoly, snakes and ladder etc familiarise us with the feeling of losing – you win some, lose some.
Over several hands, no matter how bad we feel, we do come to terms with losing. And we do so gracefully because we know it to be a fair game. As we grow older and are faced with win-lose situations in life, we get by with dignity. But what brings out the monster in us is when the game is ‘unfair’. When people whom we trust or love cheat us, we are wounded – it affects us like no other pain. We vow to take revenge as we pick out the imaginary daggers stabbed at us.
Much as we are justified in our bid to seek revenge, it is never a solution. ‘Revenge’ is a reaction. And any reaction is bound to have grave consequences in the material world as well as the ethereal world (the world of cause and effect).
The solution lies in seeking justice. When we seek justice, we respond to our situation. We do whatever is humanly possible within the ambit of law or ‘dharma’ (righteous behaviour). It does not mean cowardly acceptance of our situation as ‘fate’. If we get justice in this world, it’s great, but even if we don’t, we need to know that no matter how much time it takes, existence offers retribution in the form of poetic justice. Gorakhnath, the Aghori says, ’when you don’t ask you get milk, when you ask you get water, when you snatch you get blood.’ And blood it is for people who cheat. When existence decides to punish, it shows no mercy.
It is never easy to let go of the loss, the pain, but to hold on to the same can be fatal. The first casualty of a ‘reaction’ is our own health. It is a well known fact that any negative reaction has the ability to damage or weaken the heart in a matter of a few hours. So it’s best to view the entire episode through the prism of the ‘Law of Karma’ and have faith in its working. For the moment, treat it as a bad karmic debt and move on.
The greatest human folly is to believe that what you do, you do to ‘the others’. In existence there is ‘no other’. What ever you do, you do it for your self. As for ‘the others’, you can only pray- ‘Lord forgive them for they know not what they do’ (Christ).
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