We all think we are special and it extends to just about everything that is remotely connected to us – our name, our faith, our sun sign, our school, our pet… And we are not entirely wrong in feeling the way we do because the self, which has its origin in consciousness (aham), gives us an inflated sense of self.
Our judgement of course is subjective. But this perception of ours, no matter how distorted or unrealistic, helps us to operate with a sense of dignity and responsibility. We strive to live up to the reputation of being special and therefore being capable and worthy of social interaction and association.
However, when people perceive themselves as not just special but perfect beings, they start to feel superior. This image of being ‘perfection personified’ creates problems in their social interactions, for it gives them a superiority complex. And when they suffer from superiority complex they believe that the world is limited by their vision and vocabulary. They are consumed by their sense of greatness and make no room for the possibility of any other form of reality that may co-exist. The world according to their vision is the only world that exists. The rest is the ignorant and delusional world that other people live in. They assume to be at the superlative end of the comparative degree.
The other kind of ‘special’ people are just as divorced from actualities as their counterpart but they are devoid of any personality. They stand for nothing and as the old adage goes – ‘Those who stand for nothing, fall for anything’. Their vision and vocabulary is decided by the masses. They are all about shared opinions and believe that there’s safety in numbers. It’s the best way to make up for their lack of personality. They are particularly threatened by informed people, people with individuality, people who have the guts to stand for something.
As part of the masses they are quick to react because it deludes them into believing that they stand for something and it also serves as a vent for their pent up anger which rises because they are not comfortable in their skin. The violence that they indulge in is a part of displaced anger. These people who are inflicted with inferiority complex are always on the defensive. Dealing with them is difficult because they are quick to take offence and imagine insults.
People with superiority complex on the other hand start imposing their ‘ultimate’ version of truth on the others. Their attitude of supremacy with everything that they believe in, from their belief system to their diet becomes a weapon for reforming those around them. Individual needs and variations not withstanding, not even tolerated. They are quick to jump to conclusions about people around them in accordance with their parameter of right or wrong. Their anthem is – ‘my way or the highway’.
The truth is that we are all special; unique in our potential and consciousness, no one is superior or inferior to the other. We are all at a different stage of evolution, each one of us. As is our evolution of consciousness so is our reality. Our conduct discloses how evolved we are in our consciousness not our claims. The more evolved we are, the wider our horizon of understanding. There’s room for everything and everyone here sans our judgement. An evolved person allows for the others to outgrow their ignorance not force them out of it.
Evolution of consciousness is a process not a product that can be handed over. In fact, we are here to outgrow our follies through various lifetimes. According to Tom Robbins and his ‘Theory of Evolution’, “Our greatest human adventure is the evolution of consciousness. We are in this life to enlarge the soul, liberate the spirit and light up the brain.”