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This story about how a woman built a strong, healthy marriage is inspiring

Her story is inspiring and signifies something important that is missing in most relationships today — the will to not give up.

By: Express Web Desk | New Delhi | Published: September 9, 2016 5:24:26 pm
couple waits 9 years to open gift, aunt's gift to couple on marriage, how to save a failing marriage, how to save a relationship, how to mend relationships, how to be happy in a relationship, indian express, indian express news A story about a woman and her will towards building a successful marriage is inspiring. (Source: Love What Matters/Facebook)

What seems like an underlying problem in most relationships today is that after a point, there is no effort put in by both sides to stay together. Some might say that there was no spark anymore, while others have reasons like job and a busy schedule, owing to which relationships, like marriage, take a backseat.

People choose not to open up emotionally and avoid confrontations, thus leading them to drift apart.

That is when stories like these come as a whiff of fresh air. Posted on a Facebook page called Love What Matters, it is a true story of Kathy Gunn, who though unintentionally, fought towards building a beautiful marriage. Her story is inspiring, to say the least and signifies something important that is missing in most relationships today — the will to not give up.

The text of the post that told Gunn’s beautiful story, read this.

“Tonight, we tucked our kids in bed and my husband and I enjoyed a glass of wine on the deck. We were talking about how excited we were to attend an upcoming wedding in Kalamazoo (where we met and went to college) and discussing what would be the perfect gift for the newlyweds. So, I thought back to our wedding day (nearly 9 years ago) and tried to recall the gifts that had meant the most to me. The funny thing? The gift that meant the very most was still sitting in a closet… unopened.

On our wedding day, my husband Brandon and I received a gift from my Great Aunt Alison. On the plain white box was a card that read, “Do not open until your 1st disagreement.” Now, there had obviously been plenty of disagreements, arguments and slammed doors throughout our 9 years. There were even a couple of instances where we both considered giving up… but we never opened the box.

I honestly think that we both avoided turning to the box because it would have symbolized our failure. To us, it would have meant that we didn’t have what it takes to make our marriage work – and we’re both too stubborn and determined for that. So, it forced us to reassess situations. Was it really time to open the box? What if this isn’t our worst fight? What if there’s a worse one ahead of us and we don’t have our box?!? As my Great Uncle Bill would say, ‘Nothing is ever so bad that it couldn’t get worse.’

All along, we assumed that the contents of that box held the key to saving a marriage – an age-old trick – unbeknownst to us rookies. After all, my Great Aunt and Uncle had been married for nearly half a century. So, we thought the box would save “us” – and in a way it did. That box went beyond what I believe my Great Aunt had intended. It was by far the greatest wedding gift of all.

For 9 years (and three moves) that box sat high on a shelf in various closets gathering dust, yet it somehow taught us about tolerance, understanding, compromise, and patience. Our marriage strengthened as we became best friends, partners, and teammates. Today, we decided to open that box, because I finally had a realization. I realized that the tools for creating and maintaining a strong, healthy marriage were never within that box – they were within us.”


This is the actual Facebook post.

It might seem that the little box kept Dunn from giving up on her marriage. Rather, it was the foundation that every relationship should rather be built on — tolerance, compromise, understanding, and patience — that held her marriage together.

Many of us can take a leaf out of Dunn’s book, now can we not?

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