‘Love is difficult’: Manoj Bajpayee shares relationship advice based on 15 years of marriage

Neha Cadabam, senior psychologist and executive director at Cadabams Hospitals, told indianexpress.com that our ego forms through our interactions with the world, starting in early childhood. “As we learn to recognise ourselves as separate entities with distinct thoughts and feelings, the ego solidifies. It also shapes our sense of self-worth, competence, and identity, and allows us to say ‘I am’ and provides a sense of continuity throughout our lives,” she explained, adding that in certain cases, the ego can get out of hand and make a person feel like they are better than others.

Muskan Marwah, psychologist at Mpower Helpline at Aditya Birla Trust, added that psychologically, the most balanced and fulfilling relationships are based on mutual emotional care. This means both partners listen to each other, support each other, and take responsibility for how they make the other person feel. “It’s not about fixed roles or an inflated sense of ego, but about understanding what your specific partner needs to feel loved and supported,” she said.

According to her, every person is different. Some need more emotional closeness, while others require words of appreciation. Some value respect and recognition, while others need calm and security. These needs don’t follow gender lines; they follow individual personality, life experiences, and emotional styles.

“Ultimately, whether it’s offering emotional warmth, protecting each other’s dignity, or celebrating each other’s strengths, relationships flourish when both people invest in understanding and uplifting one another,” said Marwah.

Bajpayee says it is important to shed off ego in a relationship. (Source: Freepik)

How can couples strengthen their bond?

Marwah shared some key strategies to help couples strengthen their relationship or marital bond:

Plan quality time together: Just as you plan for school activities or medical appointments, you should intentionally schedule time for each other—whether it’s weekly date nights, shared hobbies, or even short coffee breaks.

Establish small connection rituals: Daily routines like taking a morning walk, checking in about each other’s day, or having meaningful conversations in the evening (instead of just using screens) can help strengthen emotional bonds.

Talk beyond tasks: It’s common for conversations to revolve around bills, schedules, and chores. Setting aside time to discuss dreams, fears, or lighter topics can help restore intimacy.

Share caregiving responsibilities: Dividing household and parenting duties fairly can reduce tension and give both partners space to be companions, not just co-parents.

Maintain physical intimacy and affection: Simple gestures like hugs, holding hands, or a touch can greatly help keep emotional connection alive.

Seek help when necessary: Getting support from extended family, babysitters, or playgroups can create space for couples to reconnect without feeling guilty.

Professional help: If feelings of disconnection are deep, therapy can provide a safe space for couples to rebuild communication and intimacy.

DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to.